Took me a while to understand the difference between being a doormat and being accommodating. I put up with a lot for a long time, believing that I was being accommodating. Too bad, others thought I could be bullied into anything. Finally figured it out and decided to stand up for myself. Am I a doormat? Not Anymore.
Too many things on the list. How many qualifies us for the doormat title Many women are conditioned from childhood to be doormats to their parents, in-laws and society in general. As women, we have to know to be assertive and at the same time not be arrogant. Its a constant battle within ourselves. Usually, the women are called "arrogant/ ahankaram" by people around if they are not doormats. I used to be called that so i guess i am not a doormat
Sorry didn't read the entire post , too long. I possess none of the qualities of a doormat. Well my PILs and DH would love it if I was a doormat, unfortunately I was never one and would never be. Now I feel that my kids, future DIL,SNIL would love it if I was a doormat. I am not a needy person running after people who ill-treat me, supposed to be snobbish and aloof, amen. People with self- respect cannot become doormats.
I do qualify for some points and i need to shake them off one by one... Thanks for sharing the article, Anita.
this is to say that i can now be officially called a 'Doormat'. gosh! almost all the description here fits me. to comment that i am qualifiying for all points here is a big deal to me but still as they say 'accepting that i have an issue is the only way which can lead to help overcome an issue'. Gotta read this again and again until i figure out how to overcome it. Thanks Anita