I wish I had a Sister

I am not sure how many of you'll have felt this way.. But I always have this feeling running on my mind.. My brothers are married with kids. But none of them bother to wish me or send a birthday email even for my birthday.. If i send photos, then after seeing that, he will send a belated wish (too very rarely).. But when I call my bro or bro's wife on their bday or anniversary, they hardly pick the call, because they will be in a resort (where there is no net connection) or some distant place to celebrate the occasion. But anyway, I wish them on their birthdays over email.. I have never demanded any gifts or even asked anything from them.. Can they not a send a simple bday message in spite of being in FB , mail and stuff. They can't even remember by kid's birthday too unless I share the bday photos with them. But as a sis, I always remember all their bdays, send gifts for their kids bday..These things happen after the brother gets married.. They grow distant when they have a wife and kid.. But this is not the case when you have a sister.. Most of the sisters talk often, share bday messages.. Since we all live in different countries, I always feel sad and wonder if I had a sister,, things would have been different..

Since I have such brothers, I always see to that my husband talks to his sister and wishes her for every occasion. Ofcourse, he emails her but I insist him to talk to her so that she doesn't feel as lonely as I am.. My sil feels so happy whenever we call and talk to her.. I am not sure how many of you'll have such brothers..

 

Luckywife,

Good to know your bro and sil are good to you.. It really depends on the person. My bro's wife is my cousin too.. Even before marriage, we were so close.. Its not that I am not good to her or she is angry with me.. I treat my bro's wife and talk to her more than I do to my brother.. But somehow things have changed after they had kids.. There are many times I have sent gifts only to my bro's wife and not my bro.. There is no clash or any problem between us.. She is also highly educated and work for a company, but after marriage, for her, if its birthdays, its only her family and not h's side.. When I was a cousin, she was much better.. As a person, she is good, but personally, she might be possessive.. If its her sister's birthday, you can clearly see them wishing each other back and forth on FB.. Her sister is my cousin too, I am in good relations with her sisters too..

If its my bday, the first people who wish me are my ils, sils and co-sister.. I maintain very good relation with them.. When it comes to my family, bro's wife, I always talk to her first and most of the time I don't even ask for my bro.. But the most talkative brothers are not as talkative as they were before marriage.. Maybe men become silent and they have their own problems running in my mind.. Or they don't like to interact a lot with their siblings, or pressure from wifey (it really depends on the spouse, I guess, no matter however good you are , some spouses (man/woman) have hatred towards dh or dw's siblings or close relatives. Even my brothers, they don't call each other or interact much within themselves as they did before marriage.. I have seen a similar pattern in my dad's family too.. DAd had 5 brothers and one sister, it was only dad's sister (my athai) who used to call and interact with the brothers..

 

haha.. thanks naksh.. its not the birthday wish that matters.. Its more like why bro's are not as close as sisters.
My cousin, my friends, whoever it is, who have sisters, most often share good bond with each other.. I guess its more like how children are brought up from young age, or the nature of the spouse, or the nature of the bro itself..

Its my star bday today.. I had a chain of emails and phone calls but nothing from my side of family members..
In my mil's family, my mil reminds everyone if any us have bdays and she makes sure everyone wishes me, including my sil's husband, co-sister.. and the same goes when they have their bdays.. Mil reminds me to make sure I don't forget to wish any of them (my sil's mils and fils, i wish them too).. Maybe my mom is not doing that and even if she reminds to wish, i don't know how they would take it

Thanks Naksh