dealing with hurtful remarks

Dear Gita,

That is so rude of ur MIL. Her comment is not just hurting , it shows how cruel mentality she has!.

Kudos to your patience.

This too will pass on is the good idealogy. At times we have no other better option.

Hugs to you..

Cheers,
Sweetlife

 

Whenever I face similar situation, I console myself saying that "this is how he/she is bought up. My parents have bought me up in a better way." I tell this to myself 10 times and pity on them. It works for me .

And Yes.. This too shall pass...

 

what a cruel monster MILs are...give it back nicely that she never make such remarks in future! tell here nobody gonna live forever and everbody has to leave one day and the cruel ones like u will hav a painful end and will go only to hell.

 

Hi gitasri,

I suppose this is some word that your MIL blurted out.
some people do not think of how their words would affect people.

They do not talk purposely but then they are not aware that they are talking something bad.
Just chill and tell this to your DH so that he points out next time MIL makes such comments.

If she goes on to make that a trend, just ignore her words and behave as if she does not exist.. that should give her the clues.

dont worry about things and concentrate on your mother and child now..

 

you know what my MIL said, though my MIL and BIL and Hubby had been very poor financially and were brought up with great difficulty, my hubby bought a car in 2010 but due to financial issues my hubby though to sell it, when my MIL came to know about it she said why the hell are you selling the car , what if i(MIL) fall ill and want to go to hospital do you think ill go on your two wheller wreck scooter?? NO i want 4 wheeler

she says she will get a co sister for me soon after marrying the younger BIL and they both MIL and co sister will come and live with us and trouble me.. I sai" Ill not allow kachra to enter into my house"

 

I really admire your patience Gitasri.

 

The OP can not chill. Because as you r saying the MIL has not blurted out those words unknowingly. It is an act of willfull preplanned hurt by her MIL.

As MILs are themselves women, they know it too well what hurts a woman maximum. Then the MILs plan their words.....rehearse it a few times within mind......edit it with more venomous words......then speak it to the DILs. The DILgets hurt......that is seen in her face.......that brings cheer to the MIL.


The above would be the oft-repeated sequence in 99% of MILs. Of course 1% of MILs are really good and free from prejudice too. Not all women r lucky to have the later.

 

this would be good reply ...
many of the MIL need this type of replies but they remain on our tounge they dont come out to reply them

 

You know.. I never thought of it this way !!! :bowdown:bowdown Thank you.. it's enlightenment day