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  1. Sweetygals

    Sweetygals Silver IL'ite

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    Thanks for your wishes :)
     
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    Varies from kid to kid.
    Mine got more focus and understanding.
    The difficulty was making my kid drink the arishtam and Gritham. They taste and smell awful.
    Ashwagandha and saraswati arishtam is commonly used for autism.
     
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    Laks09 Moderator Staff Member IL Hall of Fame

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    I did try but nothing worked as well as therapy did. It’s hard to feed the kids the arishtams etc and without much benefit I stopped.
    From personal experience, people do everything and claim some things worked and others did not. But nobody has not done therapy and used only alternatives and seen major differences. From that standpoint I felt me working with him and getting him early intervention therapies was more important. Again, it’s just my opinion. Try everything but make therapy the priority. At this age they are easily taught by therapy. You are in a way lucky that you got the diagnosis this early. You’ve gained time that lot of others don’t get. Start working with him and he will slowly pick up.

    Good Luck!
     
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    Thansk for the inputs. ok understand. Just looking out for other shortcuts as taking therapy in india is only possible for me. I stay in SG with my elder one who is in Kindergarden. So cant take her back to India as dont want to trouble my parents so much with 2 small kids. Dont know how my husband will manage her. As she is attached to me so much.
    And also just wanted to check whether u all went to development peadeatrician or child neurologist.
    I actually went to Peadeatrician in child trust hospital chennai. Should i also show him to child neuro??

    Update of my son situation: Now he throws the ball when he i say throw the ball depends on his mood and claps his hand when i also clap depends on his mood. And now worse part is he is not interested in my songs with gestures. He will smile on his own and Just start walking :(. So thought will change song and started singing wheels on the bus. He is scared and started crying. Yes for some ads in TV and some songs he will start crying.
    So im stuck ...
    And please whether below behaviour is normal.
    And if he wants something he will cry and try to reach on his own. Is reaching an object is same as pointing. And also if he sees me he will raise his hands up for lifting.
    And he always wants to go outside. So if someone opens the door we are gone he would stand on the door waiting for us to open. Also the lift when we go outside and come back he will see the lift. Realising he came back home and start crying

    Help with your suggesstions
     
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    Two things helped my little one tremendously:

    a) Speech therapy
    b) social interactions with kids his age ( play dates at home, park)

    Did you say you are in Singapore ? Singapore should definitely be better than India in terms of therapists etc.

    If I were you, I would start taking action at 18 months if there is no improvement. Earlier you start therapy, better for the child.

    One thing I learnt is not to switch to diets or any therapy which has no scientific evidence of having worked for autism. As mothers, we want to hope for a miracle and hope something works. But time and energy spent on some ineffective treatment is taking away the opportunity to pursue something that might help.
    I trust websites like mayo clinic
    Autism spectrum disorder treatment: Can special diets help?
    and WebMD.
    We visited a developmental pediatrician for the initial diagnosis and treatment plan.

    I had lots of family and friends send me information about unsubstantiated natural treatments. I almost succumbed to it.


    Lots of good wishes to your son.
     
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    Thanks for your reply. Yes i stay in Singapore and it is too expensive here and insurance don't support. We are not citizens here. So planning to go India once he is 17 months old as a follow up check up. And start the therapy as well.

    May i know what was the treatment plan given to u
     
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    Recommended plans : speech, occupational , social skills group therapy.
    Occupational and social skills group therapy helped but only up to a certain extent.

    There is no “one size fits all ”when it comes to autism. So I would recommend trying what the pediatrician suggests but it will be a lot of trials and errors, some successes along the way.

    You are your child’s biggest advocate. If you feel something is not helping , don’t hesitate to change things. It is a slow process but you should see some positive changes reflected at home and outside if a therapy is helping even a bit. Same goes for therapists, some might be good , some not so much.

    Autistic kids are very visual , so charts etc help a lot . Other recommendation I hear constantly ( when the kid is older ) is to engage in group sports.

    I would also recommend joining a autism support group. Makes a world of difference.






     
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    hi
    like others have said earlier the intervention the better.
    For my DD we only consulted a child psychologist. I didn't consult any neuro doctor. May be someone else can throw light on that.
    Keep trying to engage with him in activities that he enjoys. If he doesn't like rhymes or songs stop them for the time being and switch to something he likes. May be play dough, water play etc. If he likes what he is doing he will be more open to interaction. Keep trying things till you find what interests him. He might have been scared of some sound in that rhyme. Give it a break for few days and try again.
    My DD was just like your son. Very independent. Wont ask for help or point to things she needed. Thats was because she didn't know how to ask for help. So she preferred doing things on her own. If you see him trying to reach for something, point it out to him and try to mimic what he needs to say (for ex biscuit). Next before handing it over to him tell the name of the object again slowly and clearly. Gradually he will get the idea. Once he starts pointing try to put it in words like 'mom help. Biscuit.'. Keep adding one word at a time to the sentence.
    Dont lose hope. Some days we will feel we are making lot of progress and few days it will be like going few steps backwards. Be patient and slowly things will start falling in place once you start understanding his non verbal cues. Most of the times there will be an underlying reason why kids react in a specific way. We just need to learn how to read them.
     
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    Just a question. If i have a milk bottle or water bottle or an interesting toy and if he tries to raise his hand to reach .
    Is not that a non verbal communication?
    And good sign or not good
    and how to teach him to point
     
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    This is a good sign that he recognises his need like thirst or hunger. My DD wouldn't do that even. I had to keep giving her food at regular intervals. Else she would stay hungry.
    When he tries to reach for milk you kneel down at his level and mimic what his action should be. Example point to the bottle and say 'milk'.
    You can also have picture books and keep pointing to the pictures. And point to body parts and objects around you.He will slowly start imitating. Only thing is that it will take sometime for him to understand initially. Once he gets the hang of it he will start picking up things quickly.
     
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