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  1. Amica

    Amica IL Hall of Fame

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    @Angela123, I am so with you on this one! Entertaining/hosting is not a competitive sport. Do what makes you happy.

    You, not DH, are doing the work, so it's your call, not his. If he's complaining about the cost of groceries, that's a different matter.

    We visit back and forth regularly with family friends. We provide a full Indian meal with all the trimmings. They typically serve burgers and pasta. They never apologize and we are never resentful. What matters is the joy we find in each others' company.

    Happy holidays to you and yours, Angela!
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    Thank you Amica. He doesn't complain about the cost of entertaining. He would buy anything and everything to make the process go smoother. It was the "special items" I do that was bothering him.
     
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    The feast is over and our friends went back to their homes yesterday. it was great 4 days and I cooked most of the stuff on my list, but there was plenty left over so I think I made only 60% of what was on planned and now I can see why DH was scared to see my list!
     
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    Thank you!
     
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    :hello:Happy holiday season & happy New Year.
    Regards.
     
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  6. Amica

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    Happy New Year, @Angela123!

    Please share your menu if you don't mind. It sounds fantastic! :)
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    Amica,
    This was the tentative plan. We stayed home on all days except for one night we spent at our friends' place and one lunch we ate outside. So I didnt make all of these and depending up on what everyone felt like eating, I changed it up sometimes. I didn't make anything that is not listed. Dosa batter is backup for kids when they dont want to eat some stuff and I usually make eggs with all breakfasts.

    Meal Plan for 6 adults and 4 kids

    25th, Christmas
    Lunch:
    Chicken biriyani sambhar
    Raita Thoran(Kale)
    Pickle
    Pappadam
    Rice
    Black forest Cake

    Tea : Cake, Rusk, Store Bought Items (On all days)
    Dinner : Pasta, Shrimp, Broccoli
    26th
    Breakfast : idli sambar chutney
    Lunch: Rice, sambhar, aviyal, kale stir fry
    Dinner at Sudha's place: To Cook and Take - Appam and egg curry

    27th
    Bread/bruschetta/frozen waffles

    Lunch : Rice, fish curry, Black eyed peas
    Dinner : Kappa, beef curry, porotta
    Dessert: tiramisu

    28th
    Breakfast: Poori, potato curry (instead of this I made upma, because I accidentally ordered 20 bananas!!)
    Lunch: Chicken curry, rice, left overs
    Dinner: Kanji, payar, pappadam, chammanthy?

    28th
    Play it by ear

    Cooking Plan - Make aheads
    Idli batter (on 24th)
    Dosa batter (on 24th)
    appam batter (on 24th)
    Rusk, macarons, black forest cake (on 24th)
    tiramisu (on 26th)
     
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  8. Amica

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    :astonished: Whoa! You are an awesome hostess! I'll have to try harder when I have guests. :blush:
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    Thank you! you are very kind.
     
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    It was not a vent. : ) Rather, it was a pleasant and delightful narration of a loving and mild disagreement with a peaceful resolution.

    I am very inspired by the menu!
     
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