The best path would be divorce such guys and legally get his assets split. What he does after legal separation is none our business. Why should a good wife continue to suffer with such bad guys?! Your rationale is quite bewildering to me.
Why share? Because divorce is a long drawn out slow process through the courts; that's why. Sharing makes everyone happier, while they are waiting for courts to catch up with the reality. When legal-leaving is fast and easy, I'd be so happy. "Just because a husband is abusive, they can leave him forever" becomes a possibility, I'd be so happy, that it will kill me. I could, in fact, ascribe my longevity to reading agory-aunt columns of women complaining about their bad husbands, whom they want to hold in monopoly for eternity or until a family court says it is all kaput. What a idiotic idea !! Suffer? What suffer? When we have and own a "bad thing" and a good fraction of it is experienced by someone else, our suffering is that much lower, isn't it? I am simply telling you that girls are playing under the current rules of the game. Whatever society they live in, and their extended families, pressure them to put up with a philandering husband, who could be a good "provider" and even a "good father". And the girls have no options, but to wait for some legal resolutions, while the man carries on with the whatever that he can get on the open market. Wouldn't it be sweet if that guy is totally absent, but only does the "good providing" ?
Your advice seems like some usual horrible MILs, I have come across and also read here, who would support their sons and also their sons affairs, going to the extent of remarriage whilst still being married. Just because the guy is good provider, good father; the wife has to endure and even share her life with another woman?! Maybe will be for some financially dependent wife who has no other option available. Still those will be in terrible sadness for their plights. None would easily accept the other woman in their life. Given the independent views, I have for females, I wouldn’t advice such things at all. You are different and far off from my viewpoint altogether.
This is an example for "setting a bad example " in the society. Divorce maybe slow in this Country but once granted it's a full stop to such abuses in marriage. At least the wife can get rid of such abuses or vice versa. Sharing business in such cases don't make sense to me!
I will stop this relationship kind of arguments now. Doesn’t seem like BB thread. If others come and read our posts they will get confused as to whether they are in some relationships forum. Sorry guys for all these detracting posts.
In this thread, when BBTamilSeason-3, we may share anything once the show is closed. no? There have been countries Chile, Ireland, for a couple of examples, where divorce had been made difficult because of the influence of the Catholic Church, people who are married, and found their marriages to be not to their liking, decided to become unmarry'able single persons.... while they hoped the country's law would change in their lifetimes. They simply decoupled, and coupled with whom they'd liked to live with. Eventually the number of "illegitimate" couples were large enough for the country's parliament to come around and recognize the reality and make divorce a possibility. Lots of "bastard" children in the schools had that tag drop off their reputations right away. It was such a heartwarming thing to see. While "sharing" is only a manner of referring to the notion that a married person OWNS the spouse, her/his entire attention, affection, and whatever else (s)he has to putout, all of that is moot in an unhappy marriage. People are disowned, and therefore there isn't any need for sharing at all. Just two zombies going about their whatever (i couldn't use "life") until some manner of salvation that injects life into them.
Yes. Let's keep this discussion for another day in another thread. The moderators can give us a warning or totally oust us from the group for diverting the topic.
Someone told me that this thread is now open-season for all topics, because BB3 is over and done with. Not true, now ?