Leave Her Alone - Part One

I do agree with you since I faced this when both my kids were born. I think friends and family of the new mother should stick to gushing about how cute the baby is and only give suggestions when asked for. I stuck to my response of doctor thinks everything is ok, So I am not worried.

 

and father. (@Myliltwincesses You missed that important 'and' )

Those two should jointly decide - with some give and take on who gets the veto on what , when differing.

 

It's a subject of, by and for mothers but since fathers have also been brought in, from personal experience I can say that breastfeeding is not only good for the child but for the mother also. A mother somehow refused to breastfeed and as a result she developed a clot in the breast. It is natural way of give and take. The milk has to find a way out. It forced to stay put, it may be cause of breast ailment in the long run.
Sorry Moms and Moms to be.

 

An elder woman , most often a mother, MIL or some other close relative is usually brought in at the time of delivery and post partum, to help the new mother cope with the baby and herself. I am a senior citizen now. When i was a new mother, being completely overwhelmed with the birthing etc, simply followed the advices given by our elders with the understanding that it is for the best. However,in recent times, when girls get married and have children etc only when they are very much mature in all ways, be it age, knowledge of everything around (may be google for the rescue), and strong independent streak, it would the ideal for all elders also to just follow what you preach here: Leave her alone!

 

Mayim Bialik is an American TV actress who is a strong advocate of "Attachment Parenting". She breast-fed her son until he was 4 years old. And ignored all snarky remarks from whoever. Friends and family are the usual ones who want to butt in and be "helpful". Everything from "wean early... so that child doesn't develop an overbite... and cost too much in orthodontia in later life".

I suspect we had all tasted; after all, we should'a done it, because it goes into our babies.

Yes.. The supply as well as the demand would vary a lot. Some would have too much, and others, not enough.

For working moms, who suffer from not having enough days off to stay with the newborn, there is the struggle to use the machine and preserve milk to take home for bottle feeding.

And then there is a father who had made cheese and made open-faced sandwiches.

 

Breastfeeding is good for children .There are medicinal values in Mother's milk and this help the child healthy.you won't believe that children are breast fed even for three years in rural areas.In cities women feel shame to breastfeed thinking others would make fun of them.some have an opinion that they will lose their beauty.you have taken a good decision to breastfeed

 

I want to share my experience here related to breastfeed. This is not irrelevant and some new moms can learn too from this.

When my EO was born he had a low blood sugar level. Doctor advised us to give him formula milk too with the breast milk. By the time I was in hospital someone or the other was there to take care as I had a C-section and used to give him the formula milk regularly. Like one time breast feed and other time formula milk. When we came back home I gave him that milk few times then I myself decided that its not necessary now and I stopped giving that to him. It was his 6th day and he was in my mil's arm. She suddenly started shouting as the baby was not reacting and was very dull. Me and mil started crying as we thought that he might will die. Then we rushed to the hospital and there doctor checked his papers and gave him the formula milk. He suddenly started crying and became normal. I am still crying by thinking about that day. New moms should take care of that too. If doctor has suggested something then one should follow that properly.