Guilty And Not Sure What To Do ??

Let him be sad . You stay strong and do what you want. Eventually he will come around

 

No you need not feel guilty as it’s not your fault. Such things should be done wholeheartedly

 

you learned to run away and now get the opportunity to face and to come out from your guilt feeling. If you can take this positively then it will be the biggest blessing of your life. For that you have to make yourself strong enough to accept the things that you don't like and many more things that life can only teach you. All the best. Sorry if you don't like but my experience says that only. Rest you know better about your life. Take Care.

 

Ok. So he is not asking your permission. He has already done the gc process.
Put in some ground rules with him
This is your house now. They will not dominate you.
You will live your life as you wish.

 

Your husband don't want your permission or he never asks your suggestion in bringing them here,he decided so there is nothing you can do with this, accept this,and als now they are coming to your house you are not going there so no need to kill your identity because of them,be how you are now ,and do your things and choose what you want, ofcource it's very difficult to live with that type of people but now u can't fly from this,think that your husband bringing them here rather than moving to there house in India, atleast you are lucky in that,and als don't let them decide in your personal life be clear and let them know that you are like this only from past yrs so you be like this in future also,
Coming to your husband he comparing everything with ur family let him do don't over react,and als don't take it in to your mind als,of course most of men's they never talk with there in-laws and don't give any Val or respect to them,u no need to worry about it just leave it like he is like that only,
Don't stress your self more rather than mentally prepare for there visit, everything will be ok, don't argue much with ur husband regarding this it will bring distance between you both,and he will keep this in his mind and if anything happens later he will blame you entire life ,,be cool and relax..

 

why his parents are moving in?? are they at that stage of life when they need care and support??
i am assuming from your post that you didnt want your in-laws to move in with you.....
you should discuss this with your husband that you are not happy in this moving-in arrangement and suggest him some other arrangements....tell him how you feel about all this....only then some solution can emerge...

 

Thanks to his family, you were sad for a long time. It's his turn to be sad.

He has invited his parents? Tell him you are inviting your parents also. At the same time.

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