I am not a very good writer but was accomodating various thoughts from long about life. My life is very different from present day people who live independently and have lots of goals to achieve. I am the youngest Dil in my joint family. Had gone through various sufferings of anger and depression. But the things that I learned during this 7 year journey of my married life is I am going to share today... 1. Marriage makes us mature enough to face the world but having children makes us responsible enough to handle the world. 2. Patience, sacrifice and trust are the building blocks of any marriage. 3. The things that our parents used to say during our childhood and we always ignored them are very useful lessons that if someone is able to learn can help to go smooth in life. 4. An open mind to accept other persons ego and not to lose our real self is difficult to do but once achieved it gives us peace of mind. 5. If one has to work for some other whom he/she don't like then take that work as god's work and keep doing your karma. Good karma can only give you a better life. Don't go to change them else it will change you for worse. 6. Give all your love to kids and never shout on them. I did it but felt it's not right. Now trying to improve on it. They are the most innocent creation of God that we have to mould to make them better person but with love. 7. Give respect to elders no matter how much you like them or not. Their blessings will increase your score of good karma that can be helpful for your bright future. 8. If someone ask for something then give it to them without getting worried of how important or costly it is. As we all came on earth to pay back our loans. It may be a part of that loan that you have to pay. 9. Husband and wife lives together to make the home that should be made with love. Don't spoil this for the need of privacy. Someone may need you more than you need your privacy. 10. Last but not least love each other trust each other and don't give the secrets of your family to any other. There are many persons who have much more experience of married life. I request all to share your thoughts and experiences about this. Newly married can also share what they started learning in this relationship. Hope to see many good learnings from all of you. Thank you for giving your time.
Thanks for the like @iyerviji aunty. Please give your reply. Don't know why no one is saying anything. Would love to read your reply.
It took seven long years but there is no gaisaying the fact that it had helped you to mature enormously in better ways fast to cope up with the daily grind amidst in-laws which gleams in your post above. You summed it all in crisp points numbered as I do. 2. In life everything needs attention. Some have less and some have more. The duration could vary depending upon one's background. 3. To understand various shades & moods of family life too, one needs certain skills including paying attention otherwise known as focus. If one thinks and works for positive end results, a better approach a better option could be easily discerned. 4. You seem to have mastered all this in your 7 years of WEDLOCK in joint family set up as a daughter to in laws, as spouse to husband, as responsible mother to two kids. You had paid adequate attention to all areas of household which had lead to making a home out of joint family house with love affection, give and take, amidst all family members including your friends. 5. Sacrifice a bit but not compromise always. 6. I am sure by your present attitude all members of your family would love and cherish your presence forever. You must have made your parents proud. 7. You got the knack to get through all those initial teething troubles. 8. It shows you understood Family as a group of people who are related to each other but it is more than that. Yes. It’s a meaningful connection. It’s an incredible unbreakable bond—created by mothers, fathers, sisters, brothers. It’s comfort in a world of uncertainty. It’s a shoulder to lean on. It’s love, inspiration and support. It’s that warm feeling and wonderful complex mix of emotions and bonds. P.s. I wish I should have responded in leisure but since you insist for it now, I rushed it. At present keen watching live icc World Cup . Newzeland won elected to bat. 10 for none at over 3.1. A six by Guptill as I sign off here from IL for the moment. Thanks and Regards. God helps family bonds .
Thank you for the response. Yes I am always in hurry to get your reply. Whenever whatever I post here the first thing I look forward is your reply. You can give another reply leisurely when you will be free. I don't know about who think what about me other than my h as we share these words and he is my teacher in all aspects of life. He give me a lesson then sit back to see my response and correct me with love or anger whatever he feel right. You too helped me a lot in many ways to improve my thinking process and to become little mature. You know how I was when I joined IL. Now also I am trying to focus on everything but many things I have not yet reached. Many things I don't even know and many I try but fail many times. NZ reached 29 lost 1 wicket. Please give another reply with more lessons of your life. Thanks a lot for this reply.
You say you are not a good writer but you write so we'll.You have covered everything that's why I did not know what to write. Now since you have asked let me share my experience. I had written some years back about married life with the tittle We are different from each other but we complete each other. Your first and second paragraph is very true.Also what our parents used to advise us that time we did not think it is important but that helps us now. By God's grace I had the opportunity to serve my parents and grandmother and my brother in law in their last days. With their blessings I got a good husband and he is from my grandmother's place.When she was there she used to say so much about her place but I never bothered much. My grandmother was a great cook but I did not learn to cook from her. I am married to a big family and all are experts in cooking including gents. Earlier any function they only used to cook. About kids you are right. Till the age of five years they need our love and care and we have to sacrifice for them . They learn so much in those years. My husband is very short tempered but has a good heart . When he gets angry I don't argue as I know he won't like. That's why our married life is happy. He is very strict with children . I learnt cooking from my husband. Earlier used to get scared if anyone is coming home. I worked for 38 years. After marriage my husband used to help with n cooking.My colleague s used to ask me did iyer make this. He used to allow me to go with friends , come with me for office picnic, wherever necessary. All his nieces, nephews and their children are very fond of me and respect me a lot. Let me not bore you .
