How To Strengthen My Marriage - Need Support And Advice Please

Zahra, its ok, sumtymz v find deeper connections with ppl who may not b family. I think it gives u wider perspective. And take ur time to heal. Just dont allow ur past spoil ur present.

 

The way I see you had two guys after you who persisted on being with you. So lucky you . I understand that you feel guilty about rejecting the first one. He is doing well so you can feel less guilty about it. The fact that he is in the same city is a bummer.

But you still have you dh and lovely kids to focus on which is good.

I understand that you are going through a phase of regretting your past actions. I guess it happens to many of us. You just have to choose something else to focus on and getting better at that. Its tougher said than done..... Surely there will be a day when will find out that you did the right thing.

 

Dear OP

We all, or most of us have "the one who got away." A part of us will always belong to them, and only them, however, we cannot be with them. I truly believe that who we end up with is destiny. You have a great husband and family, don't jeopardize that by trying to get back what is meant to stay in your past. You need to heal from the past and forgive yourself, and everyone else, for everything and accept that it was just not meant to be. Get whatever emotions and pain you have out of your system. Even if you need to write it all out and burn it later.

 

I had problems in the relations, problems with the husband too. It proceeded long enough and at once I decided to understand deeply it and to change something. I even addressed psychologists. For a start it is necessary to understand what men want in a woman. I consider it very important, about it is even written in his secret obsession book. Here I found dating advice for women. This correct behavior, you have to become desired for your man. I even carried out practical exercises which really work.