Left Alone.. Feel My Life Has Come To An End.. Plz Help

Oh.. OK. Then you have roti-kapda-makhan taken care of. It is not like you'd been abandoned like taken to kumb-mela and left in the crowd, no money, no memory, no gumption to go anywhere situation. Your thread-title was a grand hook, but then here you are, sitting pretty in a comfortable situation. I am so relieved. Carry on, and have fun.

 

@Amulet But roti kapda makaan isnt everything.

 

to the @OP, u must learn to be independent, people r going to ER/hospitals all alone n u r worried about staying away from ur parents...

no use crying over spilled milk n why r u relying on ur parents to find u a match or what they r saying for second marriage or no second marriage..if u don't want to marry or date then also it is completely fine, take a break from everything if required even for some years to focus on what u want out of life ..but if u want to marry, if u go for a typical arranged marriage route, u can't land a good man who is not a mummy's boy

good successful independent men who are not mummy's boys are attracted to women who are highly independent n professionally successful as these men have too much to lose in case of wrong marriage/divorce so they want an equal woman partner who is independent,financially secure, their equal n like them, who can manage things on her own / makes independent decisions just like these men do as even these kind of men don't want third party interference aka in-laws interference just like women don't want mummy's boys n age is not a big deal for them so don't worry about your age.... so live on ur own, focus on ur career to be financially secure n date for a year or so atleast then u will land a gud man..

most desi parents r very protective so move out of your house n stay on your own even without a room-mate..unless u live independently on your own, u won't learn how to be independent n make strong decisions or weed out wrong people out of ur life...... without thinking twice, completely block non-family members or family member aunties who r creating negativity around u n tell them u won't tolerate their negativity....unless u live independently for some time, u won't become emotionally strong n will fall into the trap of a wrong man or end up making wrong decisions

 

'comfortable' is a relative thing, right?

 

@Star25, don't worry...things will fall in place....even my career got completely messed up when i walked away from marriage as i was also too depressed with stalking n harassment from ex when i had to walk away n i resigned from my job to take a break ...i had to start all over again in my career also but my parents supported me a lot in my every decision .. i thank God everyday for such parents...but i decided to stay completely independently away from family n even siblings to become emotionally strong n that helped me a lot...... some desi men tried to flirt n all but i told them off very quickly because after staying independently for so long i had become emotionally strong to figure out bad apples aka men quickly.

 

you have got great inputs. i can say only 1 thing. you said you are 37. so even we see conservatively your parents are 60 or above 60. you cannot rely on them emotionally , physically or in anyway for your life decisions. sorry if it hurts. but their wisdom is done after your 1st marriage. now blaming or even relying on them for anything is going to hurt or infact is dangerous

you have got amazing inputs, move on with your life. divorce if you have to. focus on yourself and proceed.

 

The best option would be to move to different city and just focus on ur career and you will do good.dont worry much on this as this may lead to depression.be strong dear