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Closer To Which Side Family, Dad's Or Mom's?

Discussion in 'Parents & Siblings' started by Rihana, Mar 18, 2019.

  1. senorita2019

    senorita2019 Gold IL'ite

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    My dad always traveled and we were with mom majority of the time so she took us to her relatives house more than my dad's side. So we became close, also my mom's relatives were more fun to hang out with
     
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  2. Amica

    Amica IL Hall of Fame

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    About equal then, about equal now.

    We are close to those relatives who have also become our friends, regardless of which side of the family they're from. With the rest, we maintain breathing room and space. It promotes longevity in these relationships.
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  3. startinganew

    startinganew Gold IL'ite

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    What a powerful statement - so well said @Topaz49 - thank you for wording it like this! <3

    And what if our children become our inspiration to patch up strained relations (instead of having to "lose") - this might make life better for all of us! :)
     
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    Paripoorna Gold IL'ite

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    Growing up i was close to dad's side of family as we were visiting them . As i entered preteens we were visiting both sides of the family and close to both of them. Dad's side i am the youngest in the family and till date i have not grown up in front of my cousins..still a small kid..
    Moms side, four cousins are close and we are in constant touch. Now i am more closer to my cousin's wife.
    More than cousins, we are close to aunts and uncles on dad's side.
     
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    SGBV IL Hall of Fame

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    Growing up, we were very close to our mom's side of the family because of the fact that we lived in the same city as them.
    Dad worked in abroad, and mom lived with Grandma in her native, where most of her siblings also settled.
    So, naturally we only had mom's side of the relatives to live/share with.
    We had both extremely nice uncles/aunts and cousins as well as extremely bad ones from mom's side.
    From the very beginning, we have to adjust, accept and often bend over backward with unreasonable relatives of my mother's side to maintain that strong string... Too much drama!!! and over the time, I and my siblings felt it was not necessary.

    Once dad was home, we got a chance to spend quality time with his side of the families too. Earlier, we only knew them by name sake and would have spent only a couple of days per year during any special functions. So, we did not know about them much.
    But, then we slowly developed some quality bonding with dad's side cousins, who shared exactly same qualities and though process as us. So, we clicked just in no time.
    It was when we were in college, and we had the liberty to travel alone and chose to spend our holidays with whomsover we wanted then. So, we would chose our dad's side cousins to tag along, and it was fun.

    Fast forward to today....
    We are very close with dad's side cousins, who are very friendly, equal to our status, and share same wavelength as us. Besides, they have kids who are of our kids' age... and that makes the bonding to the next level.
     
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  6. Thyagarajan

    Thyagarajan IL Hall of Fame

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    Quite a interesting discussion but which is better? To lean more on which side does absolute good? Feed backs invariably accounts for their leaning during their child hood and or before wedding. Am I allowed to participate being male?
    Thanks and.
    God created siblings to divide hardships and multiply happiness or otherwise!?!?
     
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  7. Caughtinbetween

    Caughtinbetween Gold IL'ite

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    Growing up , it was dad's side of the family who visited often . Moms side had less connections . Moms side family was huge and possibly we lived farthest so had less closer ties. Dad's side though had differences with mom but they did help and stood by us whenever needed . Now there is still connection with dads side but less so with moms side.
    But now i feel , as a kid I should have taken more initiative to have a relationship with the extended family than being reclusive .
     
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  8. Amulet

    Amulet IL Hall of Fame

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    Has anyone tried to build up a family tree ? Or a Clan directory ? These may be useful for the next gen., as we go on and live in our own nuclear families, get busy with raising children in isolated far away pockets, and do not really know the gene-sharers who exist elsewhere.
     
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    Anusha2917 IL Hall of Fame

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    Yes. That was a recent summer vacation task to the 4 kids in the family by me. They had a make a chart of family tree attaching photo of each person and writing about them in brief. While a soft copy would be helpful but I wanted them to get creative with charts and colors.
     
  10. Thyagarajan

    Thyagarajan IL Hall of Fame

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    I presume my query is answered affirmative with your clicking the LIKE option.
    Thanks and Regards.
     
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