A Big Vent

My chithi , son and her daughter family , My perima and her daughter family came for vacation. No males , they were at hometown. chithi and perima are widows but chithi without any help picked up my sons also as all children will enjoy if they are in same place. did train travel.

it was good and first day they went for shopping whole day.
Morning tiffin, lunch i prepared and kept and they also helped. dint show or say any concerns all spoke nicely.

next on sunday , i went to church. I prepared break fast and left with my akka;s daughter.
My brother (chithi son) went to some college Phd work.

she said one menu for afternoon also said if it is ok we can eat out as you dont have enough big vessel.
she kept insisting on that big vessel so i said i will get from my friend house.
then she said there is no big stove. i said chithi tell me your menu and i can prepare in cooker itself i have large 12 litre, 10 litre cookers and it will be suffiicient. she dint agree for that too.

so finalized with tomato rice and chicken gravy.

after coming back from church, my parents also came and saw no work started and she said again vessel issue.
my dad raised concern that it wont be suitable for children. lets prepare gravy +rasam so that we can eat hereitself.
and go out in that way we can avoid unnecessary luggages.

she also said ok and she herself prepared and we helped . rasam and rice dint take much time just we had nice time no issues.
they dint tel any concern even while eating every one happy and went to guindy park and there her son bought dosa for her to eat.

she is a vegetarian and gravy was prepared at my sister house and they brought to my home. we had brinjal prepared at my home but someone put in fridge. but when i asked to wait and i will heat it, she said enaku pasiye illa , rasame podhum.


from this wat i understood while travelling is , she expected to go out and eat, freshly prepared gravy she expected. but this created big conflict.

what happened is there was a plan after going to beach, we planned to go to other relative house. we went there and they said we can go to hotel.
she was impressed and she liked there.
as soon as we came from hotel, she asked every one to stay in their house and chithi, akka, and chithi;s daughter we all came in same cab -they as soon as packed all the stuffs and vacated my house - we were keep on asking her that my children will miss. other children when asked that we also will go with etc... she said then i will not take you back in train..

my spouse now asking , ivangala nambi than pullaingala kootitu vara sonniya , epdi abrupt a kelambi poranga...

i felt very bad and till now she dint speak too.

next morning we had prayer in my sister house , for that also they dint come and my parents got furious. my sister is having small baby 1.5 years old - taking her to guindy park, beach and after that also to relative house should be tough but she dint understand that pain.

when i asked those children to select the toys , they eagerly went but she dint allow to buy too.

i dint speak too because abrupt a kelambi ponathu , i also got tensed. enaku pesavum thonala. but pesame irkarathu thappu than .

Also my sister when talked, she said so many things. she said she wont come down and we have to come down etc.

Now that my parents are shouting at me , why you asked them to come , if u asked them , atleast you can book some hotel room. actually ours is a rented one but big house only. am surprised at them too.

from my spouse side , if the same 10 members come, i will do all the work with existing vessels only and we cant put the open stove in rented house.
we never asked them to stay in hotel because house itself big.

am worried now.

My sons expect all relatives should come to our home too.
so in this vacation i asked who ever i see or spoke to , to visit my home atleast for a day.
i dont know where is mistake.

 

after speaking , my sister says, she is over dominating. whatever , if we are her daughter , will she do the same.
but my sons were at my spouse's sister place. i made them to come compromised and made them to send etc.
she only picked them up from that place.

but too many things happened now i feel bad infront of my spouse and relatives. they are already great ppl . so this news will go somehow to them and

 

ya the disappointing moment was, when chithi said and did these things, other persons kept mum. thats the painful moment.

i was asking her, my sons will feel as all of sudden if no one is there. for that too she dint care.

Thanks for all your words @Anusha2917 .
I understood now and i feel bit relaxed