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Discussion in 'Life Without Spouse' started by Star25, May 13, 2019.

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    Star25 Gold IL'ite

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    OK dear.. I Don want to go walk back and forth to the court tat I did 5 years bk..and if even I were to do so I have to go and deal with it myself.. Last time my parents were with me.. But like u said, of late I was thinking to ask the lawyer if some justice could ever be given in my situation or should I be a victim only.. This was also going in my mind..befire that I wanted to ask u all about ur suggestions..
     
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    @Shreema86 : I was touched reading ur reply.. Had tears in my eyes when u talked about ur colleague and how much love means to us.. Yes situations make us strong but I feel that there is a limit for everything for the heart to bear.. It's like people are throwing stones on needing wound that I'd already very deeply hurt..but yes am not losing hope and try to be strong.. But some days are really bad.. I feel like God has made me come to earth only to experience difficulties ..anyways u know how exactly I feel since u were in my situation...i will try to be more strong and confident dear... Thanks for taking your time and boosting up my confidence and giving the feeling of hope
     
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    @Novalis : First of all hats off to ur writing... I have to say this since I felt like reading a novel.. I love the way u conveyed the message... I love the way ppl put in their thoughts and the flow of language and with urs its simply out of the world! Please don't think am talking about ur style of writing rather than reply back.. I want to convey how much I loved ur writing in the first place... Thank u so much for taking ur time and writing to me dear So much positivity from ur message... I liked the way u have mentioned that I could either take it as a failure or that I have the power to experience and overcome it witg full positivity... U all are really great... So much confidence u r giving me... It's like if I keep reading all the replies from u all to my post that itself will keep me more confident to face any situation without breaking down.. Yes I will positivity in any situation henceforth even if it isn't favourable to me.. Am happy to get ur suggestion for my post.. Thank u so much dear
     
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    @Happygirl6 : Sorry to hear about what u went through dear.. But Good to know that you are happy now, it conveys in ur ID itself..i used to think when I see people why only my life is so miserable but now i see many of them are in the same situation as me on one way or the other... And an not alone.. Good that u came out of that life... After we need peace and love and that is difficult to get with our partners.. Anyways if we feel we have ppl with us just to talk and share our feelings that itself is a blessing I would say... Since I didn't even have that all these years from my close ones.. Now aafyer this post i feel I do have ppl to encourage and support. Thank u so much for writing to me.. .lets keep in touch dear...
     
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    @SearchingPeace : I am financially sound but I haven't been alone by myself so far.. I got married and went abroad and loved with my husband but never went and stayed anywhere alone. So that's why a bit hesitant and so I kept that as a last option, if there is a situation where I know I have to be away from my house then I would do that.. Thank u so much for taking ur time to reply me
     
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    I am happy that my words consoled you. Let me tell you one thing in life.Try to be independent always no matter what. Dont even depend on your parents for emotional support. Be your own support. Watch you tube videos , practice meditation,love yourself, try to dress up well, support your own back in all the times. Try to smile more and dont compare yourself with anyone. Everyone journey is different and this is your own journey.Small things can make big difference. Practice the above said small things. you will see change in yourself. Love yourself no matter what. When you stop worrying on the wrong things you will have time for the right things in your life. Every one can live alone. Living alone is better than being with negative people and psychos. Yeah sure.. Lets be in touch.Take care.


     
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    Yes.. Thanks dear.. That's so true what u said and very practical too.. Living alone is better than living with psychos and negative ppl.. I do the things what u say like doing yoga, dressing up well and watching YouTube, watching movies, reading books, going for shopping etc.. Anyways will msg u in chat.. Thanks again :)
     
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    @messedup ,@nemesis , @SinghManisha ,@ashneys ,@DDream , @Novalis , @Shreema86 , @Happygirl6 , @SearchingPeace - Thank you so much dear friends for giving me all your suggestions... It was boosting my confidence and I feel strong now ..i feel I am not left alone... Please keep posting your suggestions to my future posts too because I do need your valuable advices.. I will be posting more posts regarding my life.. Please do guide me as you all know that my family isn't there to care or support.. But it no longer concerns me as I look up to you all to guide me... Thank u so much friends
     
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    You show amazing fortitude, especially for how you described your situation in the thread: you have no support from family or friends, you'd been left in a far away continent by your husband, and yet you are now quite chirpy and happy. Just amazing !
    What is your secret ? in a more practical vein, how are you paying for your life -- your house-rent, food, etc ? Are you in a safe neighbourhood, house, etc.? What is your income, outgo, cashflow situation ? These are important questions, because your answers would help other girls (who post here) in similar situations.
     
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    Thank u so much @Amulet for encouraging me.. Feeling good for what you said.. I am staying in my parents house.. But it's really uneasy to stay with them..i want to keep myself happy but trust me it's really hard ..i want to be surrounded by people and all that I ask for is "just love " and nothing else.. I want to take care of close ones even if I Don receive love from them..my sister is in abroad and my mom had gone there as she is pregnant now.. I didnt join work also after coming from abroad, at the time of her engagement and wedding and everyday I used to call her and talk even when I was abroad but no one is bothered now even to ask how I am.. That's my situation.. In my workplace there is one friend who is only 24 and she is best friend.. I see her like a sister only and take care of her.. I feel that God gave me a family who seem to be like they are other unknown people so I said to myself all the people in this world are gods children so I can chose any one to be my uncle aunty sister brother grandma and grandpa.. Like the movie 'thana serndha kootam' haha....so I changed my perception of life and people and after that I'm not feeling sad..and now I have u all too!
     

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