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  1. Oct 15, 2018 #11
    aksdxb

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    I do agree with your answer.......Penpals and chatt friends are good I encourage her for this before, to active in social media and all.This relationship is something different they are planning for meetup for next vacation,and types of vulgar talking even though I never heard something from her before.As per Spying part,I just did purposfully......because I notice her activities are changing always on phone no caring for kids that is reason I want find out what is behind the scene,I agree this not a good thing to spy .But cheating is not acceptable also right??
     
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  2. Oct 16, 2018 #12
    aksdxb

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    Intially When I caught her I just spoke to the guy over the phone and told her please dont disturb her she is mother of two and she is 10 is elder than 10 years.So he agreed he will block her.laterI spoke to her and ask her to stop this.
    But later founs out they are talking over the phone and chatting while asked her she is telling we are now good friends now.Those thing I am not ready to accept I told her to stop this relationship.Then I informed her mom.

    In between before I informed to her mom,she already shared this relation to her sis and cousins .
     
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  3. Oct 16, 2018 #13
    aksdxb

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    Ofcourse I tried to sit with her and asked her ,She is not ready to answer.But her mom is telling I am very rude person that is reason she is finding somebody for this.Anyways I do belive this may an excuse. Even I really wanna know what is the true reason.
     
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  4. Oct 16, 2018 #14
    lavani

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    how many guys will you stop. just go to any chat room with a fake girl name, wait for 30 seconds. you will get 100s of men ping to you .

    do you realize how low that talk is, her mom justifying her affair. sorry bro, you can spend hours here. you have think and decide . i am very sorry for your children that they have to go through this pain.
     
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  5. Oct 16, 2018 #15
    shravs3

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    Yes it’s not acceptable , no matter if it’s a wife or husband.
    Ask her seriously what she wants ! It’s not fair for you and kids .
    How can a mother support her daughter in such matters ? Really surprised
     
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  6. Oct 16, 2018 #16
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    Op, I feel really bad for you. As someone who doesn't know the whole story, but just this current situation, I think your marriage is over. It takes two to save your marriage and your wife doesn't seem interested in working things out. There is really no way that you can tell her to stop talking to this guy, or tell the guy to stop contacting her, that will result in a positive outcome. Involving her mother is definitely not what you should have done, but now knowing her response, I truly question whether you really want to be attached to this family.

    There could be numerous reasons why your wife has initiated this relationship, this affair, really - boredom, escapism, a true romantic connection, etc. Regardless, what is really telling, is your wife's response to you finding out about the affair. She doesn't feel guilty or feel that it is wrong, and thinks it's ok to continue in her marriage - that's weird. The lack of respect, as a human being, toward you is a big red flag and it's up to you to make the correct moves to protect yourself. Please consider your next steps carefully, because while I personally believe you should divorce for the good of your family and children, only you know what is best for you.
     
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  7. Oct 16, 2018 #17
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    Sorry What I meant her Mom not supporting her, but mom is telling the reason what she told is like that ,becoz of my angry I start new relation
     
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    lavani

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    see this is what i am talking about. you will reply and read about all the 100s of posts coming here. you know what is happening with your marriage.
     
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    Sorry What I meant her Mom not supporting her, but mom is telling the reason what she told is like that ,becoz of my angry I start new relation

    Thanks, My intention to tell her mother becoz she is the only one can convince her. That's what I understand from my previous experience. When her mother started crying she will convince. But I just wonder after she promised her mother, she stopped romancing but continues chatting telling that now we are the good friend, for me its not acceptable particularly this guys case.

    When I ask the reason for this relation, she don't have answer. from her mother I understand becoz my angry nature she initiated this. Ma'am, I don't know really what to do Five years back I went to laweyer and get the papers for divorce for other reasons and not able adjust with her that time. That time all her family and uncles interfere and solve those issue. I still kept those document. But still, when anything serious happened between us I am not able to take the decision because of my kids. What I was thinking becoz my happiness and feelings why should I separate these kids from their mother?I dont know really what is wrong or right.

    I realize now I was loved by her. once in a week she will show off like a loved and caring when she needs something

    after that her attitude will change.
     
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  10. Oct 16, 2018 #20
    aksdxb

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    Sorry I don't know really what you are trying to tell me, I am in this forum to get some advice.Before I move forward I can get some feedback.The angry nature of mine is the reason is what she told to her mother. but I dont agree with that.

    Anways thanks ,hope you understand
     
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