"aunty" Woes Part 2...

i dont think uve offended anyone because its fine if some school girl calls a married woman aunty but when a grown up 25 yr old calls some 35 yr old as aunty then i think people get offended..and i think we all will hv to learn to get used to it cuz most indians dont even realize that they r being offensive

btw what does chechi mean ? is it elder sister ???

 

You were right. This happened to me exactly the way you explained. In New Delhi, 30 years ago,19 year old me from chennai was addressed by my neighbour's 28 year old unmarried daughter as aunty.

 

That's exactly my whole point is. What is intriguing me is the fact that a Tamilian girl has called the op as aunty. It's possible that that Tamilian girl got influenced by a few of her North Indian friends

 

yes , ive lived in north india too...and sorry to say this but most north indian girls do this as if they r jealous /mean ..i ve experienced it many many times (in my sister's case too) ...ive been to bangalore /ooty but there i observed that people call us madam/sir ....and ive no qualms in saying that ive found south indians more decent /upright /trutworthy...of course not all north indians r evil and not all south indians r saints ..but its a general observation...i am a mumbaikar so i can judge it from a neutral position.

 

that s nice. Thank all Gods - In our case there is no such problem.
2. Men of various ages to avoid this type of situation might prefer to call their siblings and others' sisters by prefixing "ammmaa" as many times as possible as situation warrants.
In lighter vein just to pass time.
Thanks and regards.

 

Nice thread @anika987 aunty

I know you will punch on my face, but catch me if you can

Ha ha... on a serious note, I am also sailing in the same boat as you are.
It is insulting depending on who calls you aunt, and at what circumstance.

In fact, a few decades back, women {even men} in their thirties are indeed aunts and uncles only.
By that time, they would have teen kids, looking almost adults with equal heights as parents.
This would definitely make the parent - no matter how much serious she/he on maintaining their life style, look old and look a generation older to the teen kids.
So, it is very possible to call them aunt.

I am 35, and at my age one of my school friends have 18 year old daughter, who is in a relationship with a boy aged 25.
I've met this school mate after 25 years in my native town, and I could not recognize her at all. She looked like an aunt only.
In fact, my 7 year old son, and 4 year old DD called her 18 yr old DD as aunt, because that young girl seemed like a young adult {aged 25 or so} only.
No one checks birth certificates in this case na? so, I can't blame my young kids.

Strangely, this school mate of me found it difficult to reconnect with me this time, but felt comfortable to talk to my almost 70 year old mom.
Her DD alone had a sweet chat with me.
Now my kids think, my school mate is their granny's friend, and her DD is indeed my friend. No amount of clarifications help these young chaps understand the truth.

With this incident, I accept the reason why the women in their 30s are called "aunts" earlier.

It is not about the number, but about your life style altogether. Including the age of your kid, and everything.

You know one thing.....
When I was in School, I think in secondary School at the age of 17 or so... We friends think everyone becomes an aunt at the age of 30.
So, I can't blame my teen nieces and nephews when they call me aunt, although it hurts...

But it is too much for a woman in late 20s to call you an aunt. Never once I've experienced that, but I would become a devil if something like that happens.

 

I would have felt the same way. Aunty is for someone who is AT LEAST 25 yrs older.

 

change is good