When we genuinely come to accept something, we learn not to make a sacred cow of it. It is conceivable, or at least it ought to be, that joking about this or that signals a more natural state, an enfolding of what is into our lives. It is when we are extremely careful, walking on eggshells, that we create an other, something not quite me or us. If I were to dream up a parallel female ID here, there would be nothing wrong in referring to it as a gender transition. Or to me as an Ardhanarishwar, in true Indian fashion. SandyCandy, stay and remain funny. Don't go all politically correct. Abandon 'Bandini' - sounds like a ball and chain. Find a new skin closer to your original one - a 'sandy' 'candy' has both sweetness and grit (and it's sometimes bad for your health)!
@Bandini another thought comes to mind. She did not want to clearly say yes that’s nonya back in different avatar since this was a public post. So, she added that hint of gender transition as a clue for us to go figure. Don’t think she had another intent.
Sandy, You made me smile many times and I enjoyed the positive vibe you created by many useful suggestions & poems in many threads. If you have enjoyed your time being here, don't worry about those people who you cannot adjust here for whatever reasons. So come back here for you and your fellow ILfriends and spread happiness. Not many can write like you and bring smile in others face. But please give up @Bandini avatar and come back as CandySandy or with other positive, brighter name. I still cannot digest the fact that using Hindi as one of the reasons for blocking some one . If so many other members here now would have been banned long back. Anyway it is your choice. Wherever you are, be happy and spread happiness . Hope you stay here to make us smile and enjoy your time.
Totally misunderstood. Refer #126 and #127 @IL_Admin high time this thread should be closed. Lots of misinterpretation will lead to unnecessary rifts
Read #129. I agree that Hindi alone is not reason, but it is one reason. What has happened behind the curtain, we don't know. I dont want to discuss about it again. Thanks. Objective of my post above is to encourage Sandy to learn from this experience and stay here for her and us. It is also a learning process for us too.
Dear IL’ites, We appreciate concerns about few of your co-members missing from the site suddenly. However, please be assured when we make difficult decisions like asking someone to leave the site, it is done thoughtfully and they are not taken overnight. Plenty of prior warnings are given to those involved by reminding the participation guidelines here before arriving at such decisions. Also it is taken in the best interest of the “majority” of the ILites here, mainly to keep this community “friendly and helpful”. Insulting co-members, name calling and digging moderators/admins in the name of having “fun” and “freedom of speech” will NOT be tolerated here. Having fun should never be at the cost of others in this community. Would like to make this closing post and leave this thread to Rest In Peace. It will also be removed shortly. Thanks!