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  1. Rihana

    Rihana Moderator Staff Member IL Hall of Fame

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    Amica, thank you for highlighting this unnecessary hassling that OP has to face.

    Advice for the problem posted can be shared without inquiring whether problem is hers or not. For the record, based on her many threads, OP has two children who are around 2 and 6 yrs old. I know because I have posted in them. Closer reading of the 7 months old post will tell what she is talking about. If one wants to look up an OP's older posts, at least do so thoroughly.

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    Who is now (why) not posting in which chatter thread, who posted what 7 months ago, do not really meet the above criteria.
     
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    mangaii Finest Post Winner

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    I don't find anything wrong in @Greenbay post. People have done this so many times before and have always been applauded for their work. So why target this person alone ?
    Honestly OP's title is very mis-leading and it looks like a troll considering the differing details .
    I have seen this trend in IL recently where a group of posters like/dis-like a post/person. Lets keep the forum clean.No groupism please.
     
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    Greenbay Gold IL'ite

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    Since my ID was tagged, replying. Else don’t want to drag this.
    You nailed it right. If female members point out the inconsistencies, is it okay?

    Also in my post, I didn’t chastise OP instead specifically asked if OP is seeking suggestions for herself or some one else.

    Groupism: You are right there too as my presence or my posting habits are mentioned in unrelated threads from the same group of posters. My member handle was first twisted by Naari, which when pressed ducked my question. Her twisting was endorsed by SandyCandy with her own twist to my handle and then yesterday as Laadla by Sunburst. Amica stating without substantiation that I am following minor children and branding it as creepy and same set of posters liking that post(This last assertion was disturbing to me as I personally contribute my time and money to minor children’s safety and our local charter will be busy in protest for Asifa’s case this weekend). Apology for wrong assertion would have shown that members here are mature to realize their haste judgment but it didn’t happen.

    Rihana, you are among thankers for Amica’s unsubstantiated accusation. Thanks for taking trouble to point that Male members have a higher standard to post here but female members can indulge in such mud slinging without any repercussions?
     
  4. Sandycandy

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    Groupism ? No we are not in high school ! We are adults with independent thinking and identities and don’t need to resort to groupism. Let me state the two instances where I added a “twist” to your handle . The first was you tagging me and asking me why I don’t post on the Y&R group (Nonya business right ? ) and the second when you sat on your high horse and claimed that your counterparts in India don’t work as hard and don’t have dignity of labor because they hire maids.
    And the third this one, because my id was mentioned ( fair enough ?) . So stop playing the victim card. If you feel you are being treated unfairly I suggest finding a Indus Lads website . You might find more of your kind. You are most welcome to be here but don’t be surprised when you have to encounter women with opinions.
    Not sure if you are used to it in the real world.

     
  5. lavani

    lavani Platinum IL'ite

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    Please close this thread. My intention is not to side anyone. If you have noticed, that other than OP everyone is trying to help but OP has not given any details. I have seen such patterns in some other threads also.
     
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    Why close this thread ? Maybe OP is too busy or distraught to respond.Maybe she does not want to share more details either.
    It’s easy to spot a troll ( normally a new IL member, advertising some product : water purifier to help with IL issues :) etc or something preposterous ) . The issue OP talks about is a genuine concern, I am sure she as a mother has noticed something that makes her ask this question. She maybe right or wrong but she has every right to clarify the slightest doubt regarding her child. The age of her kids is not relevant to this thread at all.
    This is not directed at you Lavani .

    For that matter the person that brought up concerns about this thread is also missing or is too busy to respond / clarify/apologize.

     
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    lavani Platinum IL'ite

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    I am not offended at all. I followed all the messages in this thread. Just was curious when so many unknown strangers are helping and asking more, but there is no input from OP.
     
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    I can go to bed with smile now :rolleyes: Nice thread
     
  9. Naari

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    Dude, Which question of yours did I duck? Twisted your member handle ? You mean hara Paani? That’s called translating not twisting . Just like naari means woman!

    And also tag us if you want us to respond, I just happened to see this thread now. You can deal with us, can’t you?

    And dude, logging in one off & complaining like a baby, not worth your little time I say.
     
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    And why does it seem to me like you are the TRP guy of ILs? You are here only to spark off some unnecessary controversies once in a while, like you will light a match & disappear.
     
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