A Little Help Needed From My Fellow Working Moms...

Couple of Questions: how old is your daughter? Its the 10:30 the bedtime for your child, as well? It's quite late. Does she need you to sleep? How fixed is your work schedule? Can you work from home partially?

 

"So please help me with a schedule how should I divide my evening to from 5:30pm in such a way that my daughter can sleep early and wake up early"
I use almost fixed schedules for my kids. like this . We reach home by 6:00 PM and leave home by 7:30-8:00 AM. A rough idea ..
6-7- Snack or playtime after they reach from school / watch video for some time if they want
7- bath , prayer etc followed by homework
8- Dinner time followed by reading stories or watching something or depends..brush
9- bed time (fixed, they should go to bed).
wake up by 6:30-7:00
break fast -
leave home 7:30-8:00 Drop kids at school/daycare then head to work
May be you can use 9-10:30 hours for your work . Anyway think about it.

 

My son is also a light sleeper and sleeps only beside me (or my mother), so my husband added a hook to our ceiling (in the US) for a spring to hang a sari. This helps to put him to sleep, if I am not able to sleep at the same time.

Anyway, beyond that, try to move up the bathtime to 7-7:30 and bedtime to 8, which may require waking her up a little earlier to change her schedule. After she is sleeping deeply, try to finish your work and prep work for the next day (packing lunches, etc.) I understand your pain about putting kids to bed early, my son needs everyone to be in bed before he sleeps.

We wake up at 6:30, I shower, change my son's clothes (no morning bath for him), make him eat milk/rusk/cereal, and then we're out the door by 7:30. Since I get to work at 8, I leave 5 (or before), pick him up, and get home by 5:30. DINNER is served around 6-6:30. I cook major food items during the weekends, and have veggies all cut, so during the week, I can quickly make subjis or veggie fry.

 

Same with my kids, I need to be with them. So I also follow schedule like this. If I want to do some thing else, I will leave the bed, once I am sure that they slept. Needs some patience. I feel that 10:30 is too late for kids (it will be difficult for them to wake up early with that bed time), so you should consider moving it up . Once she is used to that, it will be easy for her to wake up early. If you can stick to the schedules (bed time, wake up time), they will became very used it. That is my experience.

 

Potentially, you can ask a friend to take care of your kid, 1-2x while you study

 

You problem is very common. Lot of people who are senior act same way to juniors like your coworker, may be job insecurity. You are doing right thing. Keep pursuing him for knowledge transfer. Try to be nice, take initiatives, brush up your skills during office hours, utilize each and every minute in upgrading your knowledge. Mostly while working only we learn maximum. Try to give bath and dinner to your daughter earlier and put her to sleep by 9 pm. don't stress too much if your daughter doesn't eat in front of you. she has to learn eating in daycare like other kids. we all indian moms worry too much thats why our kids become picky eaters. My kids were also picky eaters and I used to break my head, cry, plead lot but now I feel it was not worth. Focus on important things and prioritize. Everything will fall in place. In office try to be diplomatic and confident. Hardworking skilled people are always in demand. Don't be intimidated. Love your work but not your company. This is just a stepping stone in your career.

 

Thats great. Dont worry, she will get used to it slowly. Have some patience. We all eat together at the same time. That saves my time because I used to feed them (use high chair or booster seat if needed) while I eat. Now they eat them selves.