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Husband Having Ema Affair And I'm Feeling Suicidal

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  1. LD1234

    LD1234 Senior IL'ite

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    Thanks for the advice.. I'll do it now
     
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    Yes dear.. I have to be strong.. I will b strong I'm strong.. thank you so much
     
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    Ya dear.. I will carry on with getting independent before that I want prove him to everyone.. no doubt he might even fake story about me
     
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    Ya dear.. thank you for the support
     
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    please remove your photo in profile pic and your real name .
     
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    I removed pic but not knowing how to change the name
     
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    Oh Dear, Hugs to you. Please don't take your life. My heart goes out for the baby. The baby must be expecting love from her parents. And here is the father, who don't know where he has placed his heart and senses and mother wants to take her own life. What is your baby going to do after you have gone? Do you think that woman who insults you is going to look after your daughter? Please do not lose heart. BE THERE FOR YOUR DAUGHTER... SEE HER LAUGH, SEE HER WALK, CALL YOU MAMMA AND SEE HER GROW INTO A BEAUTIFUL WOMAN WITH A LOVING HUSBAND AND CHILDREN. Please assure us in the reply mail that you will not attempt suicide anymore. YOU ARE THE WORLD TO YOUR DAUGHTER.

    And you say, your love has no value...What kind of love is this? How could you love such a devil of a person..(Sorry no offense, ur post got me agitated...) Forget your love and forget him. Get away from him. You are much much better without him.

    He beats you
    He tried to strangle you
    He is not concerned about your daughter
    He does not provide for expenses
    He has extra-marital affair.

    And still you are hoping for better. Even if he promises to be better, things are never going to be same. You have been abused enough for the lifetime. And he knows that his secret is out. Men have big ego. Instead of saying sorry and accepting mistakes, they move in the opposite direction. They are like ..."I tried being nice to you. Lekin tum mujhe bura kehti ho naa... mein aur bura banke dikhata hoon"... this kind. At least, my husband is like that and I have seen few of my cousins like that.

    Steps to follow:
    1. Take your parent's/brother's help. Your parents will understand since your happiness and your very being is at stake.
    2. Keep the proof of everything he makes you undergo. Install a camera if you could. You need to get lot of proofs to get away from him without harming your daughter's future.
    3. Talk to your in-laws
    4. Talk to that lady's husband
    5. Look for a job
    6. File for divorce
    7. Get daughter's custody and alimony

    In simpler words, you are better off without him.
     
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    OP, he does not deserve you. no amount of love is going to improve him. You have given him enough time and he has seen that you are not strong enough to do anything, so he has become bolder. As time goes on, this atrocity will only increase. Walk away from this marriage.

    take pictures of the marks on your body when he hit you. Doctor's records if you have gone to get your injuiries fixed. Every thing that will prove he is violent.

    Tell the whole world everything about him. You don't have to feel ashamed. HE and his family are supposed to feel ashamed.

    Get a job and move out of his place, with your daughter. Go stay with your parents. Do you think your father will be able to survive if he comes to know his daughter is being treated worse than an animal? NO! But, if he sees you strong, courageous, and convince him that you can live without fear you will see him emerge stronger.. Do not underestimate your parents' resolve. You be the one to show him you CAN!

    take legal route. All the proof that you collected will be useful here. Get a divorce and tell your lawyer to get back your jewellery and everything else he took from you.

    You deserve a better life. Your daughter deserves a better life. Set an example for her. What advice would you give your daughter, if heavens forbid, she was facing this situation? DO that! Good luck.
     
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    I would give the same suggestion that u had gave me I know it's really too long but I dunno what's lagging me.. as u said I have to b prepared in Al sorts to move out like job, convincing parents, going legally.. I hope I will be strong going through... Thanks for the kindness :)
     
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    Dear if I'm coming out of home he's the happiest one :) even his gf. The only issue is that convincing my parents.. I dont even want to see his face in the name of divorce because of the pain I'm going through.. but filing divorce is what good for me in D future. When it comes to my family I'm the only daughter my mother is paralysed and my father is the one who's taking care even he had bypass recently.. this emotional trauma killing me.. god must push me out
     

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