How Important Are Shared Interests?

Shared interests are very important. Don't downplay them.
Picture yourself 5-10 years down the Labe with her. It is these differences that start to become annoyances and cause arguments.

 

Major enough that attraction was not able to overcome and was on your mind long enough to prompt a post on a forum.

Importance of having mutual interests varies on the couple in question. Can you have a marriage without mutual interests ? Yes. But it could get boring for a person who really is looking at marriage to provide company in a particular hobby. Eg - a person may enjoy and be passionate abt travelling and visiting various temples around india. They may be hoping for a life partner to provide companionship to make such road trips more enjoyable. Likewise if the uniterested spouse is going to be left at home while his/her partner takes off for solo trips it is going to be one lonely marriage.

So you need to examine your wants and desires. If you think you really wld enjoy the company of a spouse who is as passionate abt concerts as you are, dont dismiss it. No doubt - marriage is more exciting and fun when a couple shares interests. Even 1 or 2 major ones. It serves as glue for your marriage in the long term.

 

Shared interests are very important. Don't downplay them.
Picture yourself 5-10 years down the Lane with her. It is these differences that start to become annoyances and cause arguments. It is important to have very good understanding to respect each other and their differences.

 

Honestly getting someone who is low drama and high quality is the best thing and don't ever let her go.rest are flexible and even otherwise it's ok as different interets makes life interesting.

Only thing is both should be tolerant towards others interests

 

"Mutual interests" are overrated..even after marriage one can adjust to each other's interests..most important is that the life partner should be a good person without bad habits and both should be compatible with each other..these TV shows etc are trivial matters..in the long run it doesn't matter..
After u have kids u anyway are not gonna have much time for Tv shows or concerts..but what would keep you both together are the good qualities that you both have and mutual love and affection.
FYI..I know so many "mismatched" couples who are absolutely happy together..
For example husband likes to watch English films, wife likes watching regional and Hindi films and Saas Bahu serials...husband loves sports, wife hates sports..wife likes shopping, husband hates shopping, wife likes horror moves, husband hates watching horror movies..husband loves eating junk food and outside food while wife prefers home cooked simple food..husband likes reading fiction and is intellectually oriented while wife hates to touch books other than magazines..a middle ground can always be worked out wherein both can pursue their interests without the other interfering and they can develop some common interests together, like one day both go out for and English movie and some other day they watch a regional language movie together.

 

Interests keep changing right? It's only passion that sticks around all along. You may not have liked a certain sport as child and taken it up in college and let go after getting a job etc.? So don't interests keep changing? Same thing with the genres you like to watch etc. How can you be sure you will continue to like the same thing all your life? Please follow @anika987 suggestions.

Best of luck for the proposal

 

Common interests make life interesting ,but should not be deal breakers.
Interests change over time,people adopt each others interests,or even persue separate interests. Life is long and there is enough time fr people to have separate interests and still have enough time together.

As long as you are able to tolerate each others interest,it is fine.
If you hate the partners interest or if interest becomes obsession ,then it becomes a problem.

We don't have any common interests ,but are in a happy marriage for over two decades.Touch wood !

 

Sounds exactly like me and my dh We are like what you mentioned and total opposites,even we have fights but we cannot live without each other

 

Touch Wood, indeed ! Not having (m)any common interests could be an advantage. One could have independent friends, and not be literally hitched to each other all the time. Especially useful if living in a nuclear family, and you need a babysitter for going out and doing your thing.

While all of us are planning a full life, isn't overthinker taking too much for granted ? Does the girl without any common interests knows that he is even alive? Perhaps she has someone else with common interests.