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Discussion in 'Married Life' started by Rihana, Jun 22, 2016.

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  1. butterflyice

    butterflyice Local Champion Staff Member Platinum IL'ite

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    Because we are not raising kids in besht Indian culture. Indian culture is best culture ;) Recently I got a dressing down for expecting my kids to speak in mother tongue in foreign land by the culture preservers.

    Jokes apart, I know I am in for a very very rude shock as the kids grow up. This clash of civilizations is really hard to take.
     
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    justanothergirl IL Hall of Fame

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    @butterflyice hang in there..the sermons will stop ...
    U know I used to think that ...but now I am not so sure..I couldn't have raised them anymore indian than I did in the US of A soil.
     
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    JustAnotherMom Platinum IL'ite

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    The environment also matters.

    My cousin's daughter and my DD of almost same age, almost same nature while they were in their pre teen, looks and sounds so different now.
    Cousin's daughter is talks so respectfully and sweet. But then my DD also do the same to third party, every one tell how sweet JAM's daughter is , then there is another face that only we see at home :(:(.
    Some time i feel, she does not consider us as family at all.
     
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    yellowmango IL Hall of Fame

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    That sounds like one of mine on a lot of days....so it has nothing to do with being in Amreeka.....:beer-toast1:
     
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    JustAnotherMom Platinum IL'ite

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    Which mean i should not let my hope die!
     
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    SGBV IL Hall of Fame

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    JAM, I was not an obedient girl as a teen either. I was a rebel, and I did object everything that my parents propose/suggest for me.
    I grew up on my own, and always screams, shouts, and fights with my parents for petty things as a teen.
    My mom at some points has given up her hopes on me. Because her era was different and girls never ever uttered a second word against their parents then. So, my opinions, and arrogance of that age sounded more toxic then.

    But I became matured very quickly than my other obedient siblings. They took a long time to grow up, and sometimes they behaved miserably even after their marriage with parents.
    But I became very much respectful, obedient and what not to be in the good books of my parents the moment I turned adulthood.
    All what I needed was some independence and privacy around the time I became an adult.

    My higher studies in a foreign land brought all the changes. That's when both myself and my family missed each other. That's when I was able to find an identity for myself. That's when my parents have eventually learned to trust my decisions. It helped both of us to respect each other as adults.

    Now that my mom lives with me, happily!
    The same woman has never even dreamed of living with this rebellion daughter before. Time changes everything, so don't give up on your hopes!
     
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    :worship2::fearscream: Anything u dont do SN. Report to time management thread ....mortals like me need some tips.:biggrin:
     
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    mine elder one is 8 years old yet I am getting shivers already...:sweat:...
     
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    Rihana Moderator Staff Member IL Hall of Fame

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    That's exactly what I wanted to say! but desisted and settled for clicking LIke!!! :blush:
     
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    I like to cook, though I don't do it as often as I might. It's very relaxing. I like my frittatas fresh out of the oven in a nice little rectangular, individual cast iron pan. It took me a while to learn to use cast iron pans - never heard of 'seasoning', not using soap, reseason after acidic foods like tomatoes etc. at my early attempts, so I went through a very befuddled 'Mum didn't have these problems with the kadai, what am I doing wrong?' phase. I sympathize with the OP!

    BTW - why do cast iron tavaas belong in the rel forum?:lol:
     
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