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How many are wearing Thali/Mangalsutra ?

Discussion in 'Married Life' started by mlk2009, Jun 7, 2009.

  1. Roar

    Roar Gold IL'ite

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    Thali-I wear it. I dont mind if it does not go with modern dresses....I just wear it. Me not in India and people here think its a cool looking accessory :)

    Bindi- Occasionally

    Toe rings- when I get off at the Indian airport
     
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    Love84 Bronze IL'ite

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    I too wear mangalsutra at work here in US and have never removed it. My chain is kind of very thin so i wear it with all western outfits here in US but sometimes i wear bhindi and sometimes i dont.

    I wear toe rings only in India .
     
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    I don't wear mangalsutra. I use sindoor, Kangan and toe ring that's all. Magalsutra and bindi occasionally.
     
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    asokabinaiya Senior IL'ite

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    Hi Mahika sis,
    actually I personally dont know about other country culture but indian mean always have to wear toe ring and it is because girls always looking down while walking or talking so they will recognize that men already married and girls wear sindoor for the same reason i think sorry if I'm wrong its just my comment :)

    Have a nice day
     
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    kvinde Senior IL'ite

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    I'm not a jewellery woman...so when I got married I had tough time hanging thali and few chains around my neck. Both my mother and mother in law are very strict about it and my husband was a god fearing one. For him thali represented something very holy and pious. Of course I too value thali but in my own way. I was not allowed to remove it even while taking shower or sleeping. But just to make them happy I continued wearing for a year.

    Then one day I had had enough and sat my husband down and I explained him my agony... i.e. I cannot carry on the weight of thali around my neck as I'm not used to wearing jewellery. It was a blasphemous statement. He wasn't expecting it. I cannot forget his reaction even today...he was like a small boy who almost had tears. I loved him more in that moment. After a small showdown. He finally gave up and I removed my thali and gave it to him. He placed it near the idols of gods and goddess in the pooja room all the while chanting prayers. He had a fear that something might happen to him or me or us or any other immediate member of the family. I felt guilty and sorry for challenging his faith. Out of love for me he crossed the bridge that otherwise he never dared to.

    I told him that it doesn't matter whether we wear thali or not as our destinies are already predestined. And the god who has been taking care of us all the while will continue to do so. God is not a mean and doesn't keep vengence. This incident also helped my husband and us as a couple to kick start our spiritual journey by shedding our religious inhibitions. We now look back and laugh out loud at that incident. I even tease him for being an ex-god fearing person. We recall it fondly and it has become a beautiful memory.

    He even explained it his mother...who took her own sweet time to accept it. Now a days she herself takes out her thali while taking a shower or while going to bed. However my mother continues to be annoyed with me for breaking a tradition. But these days even she started ignoring it...may be she has accepted that it's futile to put sense in me :bonk

    Thali or no-thali we are forever bound in an invisible sacred thread....
     
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    roses99 Silver IL'ite

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    It all depends how much you respect your Culture and Tradition, there is a special meaning and purpose of it. That is not just Jewelry kind of a thing, it has it own meaning and protects every woman from all the Evils.

    Being Modern does not mean that we need to neglect our Culture, think of Moms and their Moms how they respect it where ever they are, generation and technology kills humans like anything.

    There are ways how to tuck it inside when you are on modern/western wear what ever you call it!

    The most important is it protects you from all Evils around U!
     
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    BujjiDachi New IL'ite

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    my DH gave me a nice slim one after marriage. So i am soo in love with it. i always have it on.
     
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    so here is a thought. No one can stop change. my grandmother wore nine yards madisar and grandfather had kudumi. we dont do it. so i dont expect my children to follow. extrapolating this .. in a few generation, the world will be homogeneous. we are already seeing fusion weddings, sangeet during wedding in the south and kancheepuram sarees in the north. janvasam is history, open bars during nichitartam..so I guess as long as we love our spouses, its all OK, symbols / religious artifacts/ can fall by the way side.. change is a sure to overtake us.
     
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    I wore my original thali for one year after marriage. Then we went to the Joy Allukas in London to buy something for Pongal. I saw this super cute small Malayala thali - the one shaped like a leaf. I bought it and strung it on a Italian finish short-thin gold chain. This is my thali now. I can wear it with both Indian and western outfits. It looks like a short chain with a leaf pendant. I am not malayalee but my chithi (aunt) is - so I've seen her wearing this kind of thali growing up. This time I go to Chennai, I am planning to make a miniature version of my original thali and use it as a pendant in my short chain. I am sure my mom and aunts will have a thing or two to say about this. According to tradition, no one is supposed to see the thali. But, I don't believe in these things!
     
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    Why not 6 yards saree too? that too is a part of tradition/culture right? Are you ashamed of wearing 6 yards saree to work everyday? what is the need to wear salwar kurta and pant shirt? It cannot be that inconvenient coz I have seen my grandma wear it everyday everytime, in summers or while doing chores. We are fortunate that we drive cars and work in AC buildings.

    I don't understand how simply some ladies can tweak the meaning of culture and convenience based on context. Stop this hypocrisy! Let people decide what is convenient to them, they dont need to explain you if it is inconvenient or they find it odd in their style of clothing.
     
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