Husband being very selfish

Gowhri, you'll have to focus 1 thing at a time to improve your life.
Your current post shows total loss of interest and returns in marriage...
Since you don't have kids... u can decide if anything is there in this marriage that can hold you back... or you'll be happier elsewhere.

 

you have to make your parents talk to your husbands about his behaviour, before that you have a private talk on your needs, your thoughts about him, if nothing works, talk to a marriage counsellor, if nothing works, go for divorce

 

hi dear

time and again i keep telling it to a lot of my friends that financial independence is a very very important thing for a woman. First try and talk to your parents about this situation so that they are aware ofthis. Next, get a job for yourself. It will help you get your confidence back. I see that you are in US. Try work from home options if you are on a dependent visa or learn something new there. As i said earlier, if your parents are aware of your situation, they might be able to assit you in taking a loan for your studies if you want to study. Once done with this, think what you want in life.
I personally feel that until a woman is confident, she wont be ready to take any bold decision. prepare yourself to face the world which is not very fair towards women.
Hope this helps.

 

He is not just selfish. He is abusive and stupid enough to allow others to manipulate him.

 

That's so wrong.
You are his wife; so what if you aren't working, he still ought to be giving you housekeeping money as well as a personal allowance.

It is your right as his lawfully wedded wife.

 

thankfully you dont have kids. it makes the situation worse.

 

First of all big hugs...
Financial independence is key floor a woman. I don't think your husband will object to idea of you working because it means more money. Find a job....establish yourself and spend for yourself. It is always hard to get into working mode again after a break but trust me it is worth it.