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Chetan Bhagat's Speech about Indian Women and Stress

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  1. devi123kar

    devi123kar Gold IL'ite

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    I thought of sharing this with all the IL's this was a speech given my Chetan Bhagat about Indian Women and stress.

    "A recent survey by Nilsen has revealed that Indian Women are the most stressed out in the world:87% of our women feel stressed out most of the time.This statistic alone has caused me to stress out most of the time. Even in Workaholic America only 53% of the women feel stressed.

    What are we doing to our Women? I'M biased but Indian Women are the Most beautiful in the world. As Mothers,sisters,daughters, colleagues,wives and girlfriends. - We love them. Can you imagine life without the ladies?
    For now I want to give Indian Women 5 suggestions to reduce their stress levels.

    One, don't even think you are without power. Give it back to that Mother in law. Be who you are , not someone she wished you would be. She doesn't like you?That's her problem.

    Two, if you are doing a good job at work and your boss doesn't value you - tell him that, or quit. Talented, hard-working people are much in demand.

    Three, educate yourself, learn skills, network - figure out ways to be economically independent. So next time your husband tells you that you are not a good enough wife, mother or daughter-in-law, you can tell him to take a hike.

    Four, do not ever feel stressed about having a dual responsibility of family and work. It is difficult, but not impossible. The trick is not to expect an A+ in every aspect of your life. You are not taking an exam, and you frankly can't score cent per cent (unless you are in SRCC, of course). It is okay if you don't make four dishes for lunch, one can fill their stomach with one. It is okay if you don't work until midnight and don't get a promotion. Nobody remembers their job designation on their dying day.

    Five, most important, don't get competitive with other women. Someone will make a better scrapbook for her school project than you. Another will lose more weight with a better diet. Your neighbour may make a six-dabba tiffin for her husband, you don't - big deal. Do your best, but don't keep looking out for the report card, and definitely don't expect to top the class. There is no ideal woman in this world, and if you strive to become one, there will be only one thing you will achieve for certain - stress.

    So breathe, chill, relax. Tell yourself you are beautiful, do your best and deserve a peaceful life. Anybody trying to take that away from you is making a mistake, not you. Your purpose of coming to this earth is not to please everyone. Your purpose is to offer what you have to the world, and have a good life in return. The next time this survey comes, i don't want to see Indian women on top of the list. I want them to be the happiest women in the world. Now smile, before your mother-in-law shouts at you for wasting your time reading this article".

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  2. delhidamsel

    delhidamsel Silver IL'ite

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    Very nice share. We play multiple roles in lives. If there is a working woman in USA, she will leave her kids in day care. Her husband understands her problems. In India you have to work, cook, bare the drama, satisfy husband etc. Basically we don't have choice.
     
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    applevaio Silver IL'ite

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    Nice speech from Chetan.. Thanks for sharing..
     
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    skalluri Gold IL'ite

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    Chetan understood the heart of a women. Hats off to him.

    SK.
     
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    skalluri Gold IL'ite

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    Donot differential between women working in India or in USA. Everybody will have their own problems. Their life styles are different, that doesn't mean women working in US has less stress. To that matter, any woman in this world who ever is trying to do multi-tasking satisfying her roles and pleasing others will have stress.
     
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    GodIsOne Gold IL'ite

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    It is only a day care and not a boarding school. End of day we pick them up from daycare. This set up is only for the time we are in the office not when we are at home relaxing :). Working women in US still go through every single thing you have listed.
     
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    delhidamsel Silver IL'ite

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    I disagree. If you come home after wor, do you think MILs in India will understand that you are stressed. I don't think so. Do you think husbands in US slam the door or get angry if you subtly express that you have no mood for sex? I don't think so. We have no choice. Woman in US can walk out of marriage and lead a great second married life. I am not saying they are not stressed. But stress in India is just too much and society offers mo choice.
     
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    veeramachaneni Platinum IL'ite

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    Nice Speech. Thank you for sharing/
     
  9. GodIsOne

    GodIsOne Gold IL'ite

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    You are just biased.
     
  10. delhidamsel

    delhidamsel Silver IL'ite

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    Sorry if I am biased. Can you say why people want US husbands?
     
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