No more lies --Is it possible?

I have started this thread as a motivation.

Three years before DH presented me a book.' Autobiography of a yogi' written by Yogananda.I have read it thrice and each and every time I read the book,it gets more interesting with new dimensions.

One particular quote was very interesting.Swamiji was saying if a person doesn't speak lies for 12 years continuously,then whatever he tells becomes true that is ,it becomes sathya vaakku.

I wanted to give it a try.I never liked lying but,in unavoidable situation I have told some.

From the day my second son was born,I stopped telling lies.Even in some tempting situations,I avoided lying.

No lies means not even a single one.and also no white lies.

18 months have passed and I am still following my principle.Don't know whether I will pass through the coming 10 and half years without lying.

So far,by always speaking the truth,I think I have gained these things.

1.My self confidence have grown a lot.Since I am not lying,I am not scared of being caught.

2.I have gained more respect for my words in my family's close circle who know my principle,particularly from my DH.

3.When DS is asking me something and if I say "No" or "later" ,he believes me without any explanation.He says,"I know .You must be right.You won't lie.I believe you.".

4.Lastly ,I feel some strange satisfaction and a uniqueness in my life quality.

You can also try and feel it.

 

Pallavi,it's not that much hard.Initially,out of habit we will be tempted.But,when you cross that stage,it is easy.

Surprisingly,we will start to think honestly and straight forward and we will a find an invisible connection between our thoughts words and action.

In course of time,this will become a habit and in turn forms our personality.

Thank you .

 

Okay,I need a suggestion from you ladies and I don't want to open a new thread.

What would you answer when somebody asks you your or your husband's monthly income?

Nosy people are all around us.Some times,irrespective of their age and educational status ,some persons have asked me.

I don't want to answer them with exact figures and I don't want to lie either.

Please,suggest some way of politely deviate them.

 

Kylie,

Thanks for your reply.

Regarding what you said as an example,I would tell her politely that the saree could have been better.But,once in front of her I ill wear it .Just to make her happy.

May be I haven't met any adverse situation so far where my will power was tested.

I am a home maker leading a simple life.Had I been working somewhere,where situations are different,(customer care,sales,Human Resources,etc.)this conviction is entirely impossible.

A simple truth never hurts anybody.Honesty itself brings a force around you,that makes everybody understand you and your conviction.

Do you know?White lies do not make others happy,always.You cannot make all around you happy all the time.

I just want you to try for some months and enjoy the happiness it brings.

 

If we say,"this is personal",won't it sound rude.

Ofcourse,asking one's salary is also rude.DH once told an inquisitive relative like this."That's not important.If I tell you the amount,you may think it as low or judge it as high."

My sister use to reply like this,"I am earning what is enough to run a family.Not,much."

If my grandma asks, how should I answer.Saying personal sounds rude to me.

Don't you agree?

 

Negative words or thoughts have no connection with the conviction of speaking truth.What I am trying to say is,speak the truth.

Ye,what you have said is true.we have to keep a tab on our thoughts,speech and action.In simple words,All time alert.But,that is somewhat similar to dhyanam.Isn't it?