Fight or Fate????

well... it's not something very different from others, now a days i see .. but want to share as I personally think that whn u r under treatment & if you find someone like you then you feel more relaxed & get strength to fight against it.

so mine start like this...
Almost after 1 & half yr of our mrg, i had to go to a gynec because of severe pain in my lowe abdomen. She prescribed me some medicines but I wasn't getting relief so she made me do some blood tests & a sonography to check if i am infected. I did all tht & diagnosed with ovarian cysts. Having heard this i was almost depressed & worried as this going to be my 1st hospitalization of d life. But with my family's support, i could manage to do a surgery & remove it & was relaxed after it for a week... ( as some more bad news were waiting to knock my door..). Thn we were asked to do post surgery check up & meet up with doc.... on our visit we came to knw that my both tubes are closed so there is NO chance to conceive naturally... IVF was the only option given to me by tht doc...I broke down hearing this news.. I & my husband both couldn't bear these... plus this was such a news that I couldnn't share with all...( also at the same time the blame game started with GOD like y this to me n all those stuff...)

But GOD heard my prayers & made me happened to meet one of my aunt who is a gynec.. I shared her my case & she asked me went to HSG test to recheck my tube's condition... I did & found tht one of the tubes is slighlty open & saw a ray of hope thr & happily went to my gynec with reports but rather than motivating me she depressed me again saying it is of no use but i wasn't ready accept it & asked her some other alternatives then IVF ( in fact IVF is very costly procedure.. tht time she told me 1 lacs per cycle with 30% success rate...i.e. i had to have 3 consecutive cycle in order to succeed & tht to not gurranteeed which was almost impossible for us to afford... actually to motivate me for IVF she made me meet one of her other patient who succeedded after 7 IVF cycles... but tht wasn't my motivation.. ) . But she wasn't ready to try anyother medication than IVF ( lately i understood that that's her main business & make everyone to go for that only). After seeing my firm decision abt other treatments, she asked me go 4 IUI...

My mistake/badluck... that I continued my treatment with her & went for IUI for almost 6-7 times... with no success... thn don't whn & y but i feel that was GOD's indication & changed my doc. met Dr. Rao in Jehangir as had heard a lot abt her then again the same sequence started.. case study, some tests n all... & she also started with IUI with me ... went for 3 more cycles with her & thn almost tired & hopeless abt me conceiving naturally or any other way...thn againg one more tap from GOD & met Dr. Phadnavis for 2nd opinioin for my case & asked my gynec to stop all other treatment & try for natural way...

I still believe tht that wasn't dr phadnavis but GOD himself who showed us the path & by His grace only I concieved the next month itself... but but.... If u r thinking that this was the happy ending of my 2 yrs strugle... then pls stop... this wasn't the end of my badluck.. i had more to suffer....

after conceiving, during my 4th month i started bledding.. hospitalized n was on medications... ( this time Dr. Rao wasn;t in town & her subordinate messed up with my case..).. for 2-3 days i'll feel gud & thn clot will pass to needed to be hospitalized... such way i passed 2 months.. & whn 6 month was abt to end.. one day i got labour pain & had to abort my princess...& that was again...end of my happiness & everything....

Then again routine started with doc after 3 months of abortion n conceived during very first month ... & blessed with d cutest & happiest moment of our entire life..my son Ahaan.

In nutshell, what i believe & suggest my frnds & other who are suffering from infertility is,
1) have firm will
2) have strong courage to fight agaist this & make ur firm decision that U R GOING CONCIEVE & BEING BLESSED
3) have faith in GOD ( I offered votive offerings to almost all GOD of all religion)
4) try some ayurvedic/nathropathy medicines along with ur alopathic one... have confirmed with my gynec that ayurvedic/nathropathy along with alopethic wouldn't do any side effects but in fact both are working for same cause so increases ur chances only...
5) Share ur pain with trusted frnds/relatives who will help u during ur fight...

Still wondering ..was that my strength & courage that won or my fate ??? fighting against this situation was written in my fate??? :coffee

Hope u r nt bored with my story / havn't given much detailed one whch is nt needed...

Do share me your thoughts !

Dharini
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Thanks Sushma for your kind words!!!
I think situations teach us everything...

 

Hi Ramya,
have copy pasted my story there nw... but thinking ladies will be bored by reading same stuff again...

- Dharini

 

Thanks Vishuni & Megalife for your kind words!!!

- Dharini