DDs reaction to scoldings

AnanyaAjay · Jan 25, 2012

Hi friends,

My DD is 2.5 yrs old. Till now she was very silent, she used to listen to me, and was a very neat child. But now a days she has started picking the words I say to her and she says it back to me. And if she wants to do one thing (Eg: Switching on the light by her bat) and if I refuse, she wont listen to me. It so happens that I loose my temper after telling so many times and I hit her. I feel very sorry after hitting her. And cuddle her. I also explain her gently that if the switch will break off, we won't have any light. She tells yes and repeats what I say. She says she wont do it. Later again she does the same thing.

also she scolds me when I make any mistake. Eg: If I don't switch off the light, as if my MIL she orders me to off the light and won't leave till I switch it off!! Many other such things.

I know children are like that. I also enjoy it. But I don't want to hit her. But she makes me helpless.:spin

My DD;s eating habit is also very good. She eats whatever I prepare for her. chapati, Curry, veggies (I told her that u wil get strength to fight with pappa so she eats veggies- almost all), rice, curds, milk, juice, rotis, bajjis, everything which is less spicy. Problem is her eating of biscuits.
The other day she wanted biscuits. I had prepared rice for her. I gave her the plate and asked her to eat (Ya, she eats herself without any mess). She wanted 4 biscuits (She mentioned 4 :bowdown ) I told her finish the rice, then I will give u 2 biscuits. SHe loves biscuits and always wants them. I give her 1-2 whenever she asks but still she asks for it as if she is eating for the first time. I understand that eating more biscuits is not good, but she wont listen to me. It will end up in me shouting at her and she crying for 1 biscuit. again I have to console her by giving 1-2 biscuits. But now she will want the whole bundle of biscuits!!!:spin

When my friends complain about their kids not eating properly, I feel good that atleast my DD is eating well. I decide that I wont bring any biscuits from now on so if she doesn't see them she won't ask for them!! But everytime I end up buying good biscuits thinking that she will like them.:bonk

Hmm... I know all these are silly problems but wanted your side of opinions.. .What does your DD/DS do in this age? Is it similar or what? Pls share....:coffee

privytrifles · Jan 27, 2012

I am too young to comment on something like this but just wanted to share a quote I had read somewhere recently

Be the person you want your children to be [ Sorry cant remember the author]

loonypooh · Jan 30, 2012

scolding never helped me. NEVER. she infacts smiles and giggles if i scold, imagine how it would feel? I lose it a lot of times. go to another room hit my hands against a wall, or punch a pillow. take 30 secs off to calm down and go back. The last thing i want to do is hit the child, i know its tough, but wen u feel u are losing it, just take a break and leave the spot. It works.
Scolding really has never worked, but explaining it to her in a nice way works 50% of the time. That does not mean i dont scold her lol, i do, but really its more to let my anger out than to expect her to listen to me. Never hit please. one day she might hit u back, and that is definitely not what u would expect your baby to do. They just learn wat they see

AnanyaAjay · Jan 31, 2012

loonypooh said: ↑

scolding never helped me. NEVER. she infacts smiles and giggles if i scold, imagine how it would feel? I lose it a lot of times. go to another room hit my hands against a wall, or punch a pillow. take 30 secs off to calm down and go back. The last thing i want to do is hit the child, i know its tough, but wen u feel u are losing it, just take a break and leave the spot. It works.
Scolding really has never worked, but explaining it to her in a nice way works 50% of the time. That does not mean i dont scold her lol, i do, but really its more to let my anger out than to expect her to listen to me. Never hit please. one day she might hit u back, and that is definitely not what u would expect your baby to do. They just learn wat they see
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Hi LP

Thanks it was a great reply... I will follow your advice of leaving the spot... In fact all these days i never used to hit her, but nowadays losig temper. I will not hit, i will control my anger.. Thanks a lot dear...

superwoman09 · Jan 31, 2012

Hi AnanyaAjay,

If u want to reduce the amount of biscuits she eats then first and foremost u dont have to keep any biscuits where she can access and u urself must refrain from buying any. Or u can give her 1-2 ...keep two three biscuits in another box..never open a full box in front of her... then tell her that the packet is over and u will have to get more from the store and u will buy when u get a chance to buy. However, I believe that even after eating biscuits if she is eating the home cooked meals as proper for her age then there is nothing to worry. Kids too need a little bit of change sometimes. Just dont stress out on anything..be happy that ur kid eats her meals properly.

AnanyaAjay · Feb 1, 2012

superwoman09 said: ↑

Hi AnanyaAjay,

If u want to reduce the amount of biscuits she eats then first and foremost u dont have to keep any biscuits where she can access and u urself must refrain from buying any. Or u can give her 1-2 ...keep two three biscuits in another box..never open a full box in front of her... then tell her that the packet is over and u will have to get more from the store and u will buy when u get a chance to buy. However, I believe that even after eating biscuits if she is eating the home cooked meals as proper for her age then there is nothing to worry. Kids too need a little bit of change sometimes. Just dont stress out on anything..be happy that ur kid eats her meals properly.
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Superwoman09,

Yes we do the same thing. I keep biscuits in a different box and I will show her the empty packet and she will be ok afterwards.

Ya I am happy that she eats well but eating too much biscuits also will spoil her eating habits and its not good for digestion also. So I always keep giving her 1-2. Thanks for the reply dear.

meja · Feb 1, 2012

I really feel bad when I'm scolding my daughter...but I think sometimes you have too when they are behaving bad. It's a suddenn reaction of parents to kids. Well I make sure that after I scold her I explain in very sweet manner that this and that are the reason why you are being scolded. And I make sure to cheer her up afterwards.
Parenting is really a non stop learning journey for us.