The quality of your life is the quality of your relationships.

iyerviji · Jan 29, 2012

Relations cannot be understood by language of money because some investments never gain profit but they make us rich

While leaving this world we are not going to take anything with us except the love and affection shown by people. Some people come in our lives and become so close even though they are not related to us.

Same is the case with our landlady, whose house we are staying since one and a half year. They have never treated us like a person staying in their house. But always treated us like a family member and given us so much respect and for any function they come to us to take our blessings. I am so glad that we are given so much importance.

Today was the marriage of their daughter who looks so cute and beautiful and she and her husband make a wonderful pair. Since Thursday they are having functions in their house for which we were called till today.

Thursday was pooja for Lord Ventakeswara for which I could attend from the beginning till the end. My dh could not come that day. But I was also asked to stand among other elders and they took our blessings before starting the pooja.

Same way on Friday was Sumangali Pooja and I was asked to sit as Sumangali. Since I cant sit down I was asked to sit at the dining table. Evening I was called for mehndi ceremony.

Yesterday was Vradham in the morning and Engagement in the evening. We thought we will go in the evening for engagement. But they forced us to come for the Vradham saying vehicle is there and we can come in that. Durng that also we were also had the opportunity of blessing them. We came back after lunch and evening went again. Since the muhurtham was early today we stayed back. But since there was no cot for me as I cant sleep on the floor we went and stayed in my office friend's house. They also gave a warm welcome. Today being Sunday also she got early for us and prepared coffee and gave. We are so lucky that we have such nice friends who are like a relative.

We were the first one to be there for the marriage. In South Indian marriages I like to go early and attend the exchane of garland ceremony.We were the first ones to go in the morning. I was so overhelmed when the girl's mother asked me also to give Palum Pazamum to the bride and bridegroom. Usually the relatives only only take part in that.

These four days I enjoyed every minute and brought tears in my eyes seeing the importance we were given and treated as a family member. In this present world it is difficult to see people like this.

An intimate relationship does not banish loneliness. Only when we are comfortable with who we are can we truly function independently in a healthy way, can we truly function within a relationship. Two halves do not make a whole when it comes to a healthy relationship: it takes two wholes.
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mums · Jan 30, 2012

Relations cannot be understood by language of money because some investments never gain profit but they make us rich

Well said Viji ma.

I was glad to know that they gave so much importance to you even though you were not a relative.

I want to share few incidents where i too felt the same way.

All my relatives are good with us. My mom helps them when ever they need cash.

Before 10years one of my far of relative Uncle needed money for business. Other relatives dint bother, since he was not close to anyone. My mom somehow decided to help him. I had never seen that uncle anywhere. Later got to know.....they are friends of our relatives and not our relatives.

He did well in Business and returned the money to mom. Everyone thought he will forget us and go into hiding again.

After few months he invited us for his House warming ceremony and he had arranged us all facilities needed for our travel. We were shocked to know he gave all of us cloth and silk saree for mom.....even though his close relatives got only plain sarees. After function, mom went to him and requested him to exchange her silk saree and give a normal one. He refused saying---Akka (sister) u gave me money for starting business even when my own brothers dint trust and help me....the money you gave me, helped me a lot. I may not be a relative to you, but please accept it and wish us.

My mom was v.happy. From that day, he invite us to all the functions and he take care of us till the end.

He worked a lot during 4 marriages that happened in my family.

After my marriage i was supposed leave to Mumbai with my DH. Everyone had come to the station to wish us and give a safe send off. I was shocked to see him in station.....he had come from far off village to see me before leaving to Mumbai. He had already given gift during marriage......but still he bought a electric cooker and gave it to me in station.

On my 1st wedding anniversary i got a call from him. I was so happy that he remember d us.

I asked my mom------that uncle is so sweet, he treats us so well, how much money you gave him long back for starting business??

My mom said-----five thousand rupees.

I felt he was so humble to keep in touch with us even after returning the money.

Yes........there are good people still on earth.......only thing is we have open our heart and trust a little and leave rest to God.

iyerviji · Jan 30, 2012

Mums dear thank you so much for your first fb. You made my day by giving the first fb. Since there was no fb I was thinking of deleting the thread. Glad to know about the uncle who still keeps int ouch with you all and it was nice of your mom to have helped him when he needed help.

Yes........there are good people still on earth.......only thing is we have open our heart and trust a little and leave rest to God.

so true,I agree with you

pranatim · Jan 30, 2012

Viji mam your write up shows that you are person who is very much worth of love and affection. All you have mentioned here is positive talk about your landlord and I am so happy to see all that. Very few do this to be honest. And you are a blessed person whereever you go you give blessings and get it in disguise that much I can say. Once again another piece of cuteeeeeeee write up.

EverHappy · Jan 30, 2012

Dear vijima,

This was so touching.. Love does nothing but attracts, what we must learn here is.. For them to shower so much love and affection on you, you must have given them the same feeling as well.

Love does not need blood relatives, it just flows heart to heart with no barriers unless we put any.
Your experience proves this time and again.. Thank you for sharing..

satchitananda · Jan 30, 2012

Nice reminder Vijima of the importance of relationships.

While leaving this world we are not going to take anything with us except the love and affection shown by people.
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Loved this statement. I just wish more people would truly and sincerely understand the meaning of this.

mums · Jan 30, 2012

iyerviji said: ↑

Mums dear thank you so much for your first fb. You made my day by giving the first fb. Since there was no fb I was thinking of deleting the thread. Glad to know about the uncle who still keeps int ouch with you all and it was nice of your mom to have helped him when he needed help.

Yes........there are good people still on earth.......only thing is we have open our heart and trust a little and leave rest to God.

so true,I agree with you
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No no dont delete any of ur thread Ma'am.

I have been a silent reader most of ur post:hide::hide:

The things which i like about ur post is--they are always filled with love,positive energy.

You make it more readable with simple words and illustrate with day to day examples.

I will give feed back now on wards.....than being a silent reader.

periamma · Jan 31, 2012

Viji very well written.If we have good relationship with others that is a great pleasure in life

iyerviji · Jan 31, 2012

Prana dear thank you for your loving message. Glad you liked the write up

iyerviji · Jan 31, 2012

Everhappy dear thanks for the loving message.

Love does not need blood relatives, it just flows heart to heart with no barriers unless we put any.

I agree with your above line