Just ranting from Sasuraal

Jmusic · Jan 5, 2012

:rantWhy does even an ok place become the worst place in the world when it becomes your sasuraal? I reached here two days back and as usual am ready to die at a moment's notice already. Hubby's behavior has changed already - the bl***y wimp - I feel like an outsider - It feels like they just tolerate me - If I offer any help, it is spurned and there is nothing to do here. Just look at people's faces and get bored. I feel I am going out of my mind :bonkIf they all dissapear from my life right now, I will be the happiest person in the world. Can't leave my hubby alone with them too otherwise he would be too changed :drowningI should have never married the wimp. Its the biggest mistake of my life. Should I reconsider????? :bangWitsend

monita · Jan 6, 2012

How many days more? Hang in there. Who all are in the family? When you are really frustrated, wear your biggest smile and in your mind count how many days left. I know it's very very difficult.
Are you just being ignored or are there any taunts or comments?

ars · Jan 6, 2012

You say they are tolerating you . Why do you feel that way?
If you explain little bit we can give you ideas to survive with them.
If they are ignoring you and your conversation than you give a royal ignore to them too.

Jmusic · Jan 7, 2012

Dears on the surface it all seems fine but somehow I do not have a good feeling being here. My husband says I am biased but I feel he is biased :rantIf I ask them if they need any help, they say no so I am sitting around all day and then I get bored and then I take it out on my hubby and so the circle continues :drowningI wish we did not have to come to India. Somehow they don't show it but I have this feeling in my heart that they would be happier with me not here :hide: Also my hubby somehow changes when he comes here. I wish this vacation was already over :bang

rkgurbani · Jan 7, 2012

Just hang on dear. If its just a matter of a vacation or a short time in India, then maybe you should just ignore the happenings around you, The more you think of them, the more mean they wil seem to you.

Just be normal and try not to let anything affect you. Am sure you got tons to do on your vacation like shopping, catching upo with your side of the family, meeting old friends and even go sight-seeing!!!

Come on, it is your vacation, so dont' mind anything and make the best of it by your own self. GOODLUCK

monita · Jan 7, 2012

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If I ask them if they need any help, they say no so I am sitting around all day and then I get bored
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Take initiative and just start doing something. whatever you like- cleaning, cooking, washing, ironing etc.if they try to stop you, tell them you are getting bored. let's see what they say to this. You can also make friend with neighbours and you can visit them or call them for tea and have a chat. I know you might find it inappropriate but trust me there is nothing wrong in it. Since your DH thinks that u are biased, there is no point discussing it with him. So, leave him alone and just be a little bold and do whatever you like. BTW, if you are not feeling so welcome, why can't you go to your parents' house?

ars · Jan 8, 2012

You know if they don't want you do anything than maybe they just want you to rest and relax.
You are on vacation. You are not asked to slog like a typical dil. And you are taking your boredom on your poor h.
Of course he is changed because you are complaining and he is happy to be with the family.
Find something to do so you won't be bored.

satchitananda · Jan 8, 2012

I have a couple of suggestions. Let your husband visit his parents while you visit yours. If you must visit your in-laws, take your laptop with you and keep yourself amused watching videos, films, playing scrabble, browsing through IL ...... Present yourself at lunch and dinner time. Act like the typical Indian son-in-law would behave. Eat, sleep and keep your distance.

Jmusic · Jan 9, 2012

Thanks dearies Will do what you all have suggested

Anamika99 · Jan 9, 2012

monita said: ↑

Take initiative and just start doing something. whatever you like- cleaning, cooking, washing, ironing etc.if they try to stop you, tell them you are getting bored. let's see what they say to this. You can also make friend with neighbours and you can visit them or call them for tea and have a chat. I know you might find it inappropriate but trust me there is nothing wrong in it. Since your DH thinks that u are biased, there is no point discussing it with him. So, leave him alone and just be a little bold and do whatever you like. BTW, if you are not feeling so welcome, why can't you go to your parents' house?
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i totally agree with Monita, take initiatives and better yet show you do not know and would love to learnon xyz task...(even though u may know) , SASURAL people LOVE to TEACH to their BAHU a lot