How many of you think that your mother could be a better mother-in-law ...

Hi,

If people really have the ability to realise the things that are happening to them is already happening to others too and that too because of them, then the world will be in totally peace now.

Not all people are mature enough to connect things and realize their mistakes and correct themselves.I myself have so many times thought about this topic because what's happening in your house is happening in my house too.So it's better to think this way and relax.God's creations uh?

 

Just my POV that as ppl age the ability to change there nature or personality is very less...coz they are used to certain way of living, so they dnt like to think they can we any wrong and they are always right.... I know it's a shame .

I love my mother , she is not possessive of her son but she has passive aggressive by nature , I can't blame her much she had a bad marriage to my dad n was harassed by In laws and endured a lot in life... But as we grew up we realized that she was nt capable of change and our family used to work around those issues and understand her..but I dnt know how a DIL will be able to deal with them.

 

Dear bhavatarini,

Just like your SIL complains about her MIL to you, find someone from your own family of origin to complain about your MIL

Dont tell your SIL about your MIL, always praise your MIL with her... she will see that you're adjusting and not complaining, so she might also stop

When you see that she complains about specific incidents that also have happened to you, dont give advice, dont say "do this and that", just listen and say "yeah I can understand, this is how I dealt with it, now I am happy, if you want to do the same, you can"

Harini

 

how did you forget that there are PREACHERS.....they just throw the knowlege at outside world...however they dont realise that they have to practise first before preaching!!

on hte other hand..your SIL talking to you about her MIL...just pls do not encourage it going forward...my sincere suggestion. (doesnt matter how is your relationship with your MIL/SIL, just say you dont like to gossip about your SILs marriage/inlaws and step away...you would thank me later for this advice....)..

 

since we two sisters are only der no son )) my mom can never b a MIL i am so happy about tht. i know my mom can never behave like a MIL but even then aftr marriage i had told my mom several times tht mom s lucky since she wont have to be a MIL.
@ bhavatarini i think you and ur SIL r in good terms may b thts y u ppl discuss ur issues. i have a good relationship with my SIL2 and one day wen she was telling me about her struggle at her husbands house she mentioned tht i am lucky since i got a very good PILs. and she told she s not having a comfortable life as i am having now. i was shockd and at tht time i told her everything from A to Z about my comfortable and happy life after becoming her brothers wife and coming to her home. after listening to her problems i was pretty sure tht it was not even 5% of wat i had recieved from my inlaws tht s her parents.
now after so many days i really feel tht i shudnt have told my problems to her. after al they are one family.
so i nowadays don tel about mine. but she always starts telling her problems the minute she attends my cal n i just camly listen n don give advice n never tel my problems with her now. she s not a bad person i am sure but y taking the risk! ( already i took one and tht s euf) hehe.
do u think tht ur mom s not good to ur sil?? if u think tht u directly talk to ur mom. n never tel about ur MIL. tht s dangerous and not helpful. y wasting ur time n energy. i am tleilng u this out f my experience.
be happy..

 

A DD always feels that her Mom is the best Mom and MIL ,its always the SIL/DIL who needs improvement !:rotfl
Has anyone ever heard ofa DD saying that her Mom is a bad MIL and needs help to be a good MIL??