Divorce after 8 years - how does that happen

I read somewhere that people with weak PFC(Prefrontal Cortex) have trouble understanding and acting according to right and wrong and land into trouble because they do just anything on an impulse whatever comes to their mind.

 

You never knew their reason for not having kids . Because it has been 8 long years, there are chances for infertility issues right?

If not so and the man only denied having kids, scaring about the freedom or some other thoughts, then he may be having this PFC issues .

He has his girl friend already and going ton divorce his first wife and still not ready for the marriage?
I guess he hates responsibilities and the only thing he wants in his life is FUN.

He is very clear about what he wants.

 

[JUSTIFY]There can be absolutely no excuse for cheating in a marriage. There is boredom and loneliness at various stages in a marriage. This man most likely isn't cut out for marriage. He'd rather have an adrenalin rush and some excitement in his life than take up the responsibility of a marriage. As for his girlfriend, does she really want to marry a man who was brazen enough to cheat on his wife with her? I hope she realizes that Karma is a much bigger bitch than her! Not much to analyse here. What I found analysis worthy was the fact that this fellow used to visit your husband so frequently. Rings some bells? I'd personally never entertain such a character.[/JUSTIFY]

 

Psych:

This kind of stigma and nosy interest into the reasons behind a divorce is not healthy. Even my wife is like this. She is very judgmental and wants me to cut off being friendly with such people more so if it's a female friend of mine.

Here are some things I heard from friends who went through divorce after long marriages.

1. Huge mismatch in libidos. This is cited more by men than women especially after having kids of about 10 to 15 years of age. The women by then seem to relegate xxx as a complete chore ...

2. Monotony, predictability and feeling unappreciated.

3. A spouse being financially irresponsible or has become a liability. Cited more by women.

In about half the cases I know there was some kind of an EMA or potential EMA at the time of divorce.

Also, it's normal for once divorced to be very careful committing to marry again. I recall one of my friends saying once is enough and another lady saying "I already have kids and thus a family, why should I marry again?". Another male friend did not want to remarry because he had kids from his (only) marriage and his (ex) wife was single after divorce and he loved his kids. He wanted to remain single wanting to leave the door open for reconciliation. He never referred to his ex-wife as ex-wife. He still refers to her by her name and seems uncomfortable to refer to her as 'ex'. I had a feeling that he thought his ex would be devastated if he remarried.

My opinion is that as friends we should not be judgmental. If they are good friends otherwise, drop the interest in looking into their closets.

P.S. The view by the FIL is hardly reliable. Couples have a lot of things that are unknown to others, as you should know.

 

And the strong PFC people are extremely judgmental/prejudiced? Just kidding.

It's silly to blame specific brain parts for people's inadequacies. People are responsible for their actions unless they are clinically/legally insane.

 

It just reminds me of this Man divorces his wife of ten years because she didn